Sorry, just need to rant!
We don’t have a dishwasher and I normally do all the washing up for me and OH. This isn’t a problem, the other housework is split in a way that means it ends up pretty even overall.
But at the moment I’m 8 and a half weeks pregnant and for the past couple of weeks I haven’t been able to do the washing up due to morning sickness. I can do cereal bowls or plates that have just had bread on them etc it’s mainly the dinner stuff I can’t stomach. Even if I’ve managed to eat the meal, going back and washing up the pan and plates just turns my stomach completely so OH has been doing it. But he makes such a song and dance about it!
We had lasagne on Saturday and he left the dish to soak overnight, then brought it over to me Sunday morning saying “what am I supposed to do with this?”. I had genuinely no idea what he was on about, then realised he was wondering how to get the cooked on bits off the dish. I said just scrub it and it will come off. And he flounced off saying, “I’ve tried that, I guess it just won’t come off then”. Does he think it normally just evaporates off when I do it?? Does he think I have a magic way of doing it that I’m cruelly keeping from him?? It’s still sitting by the sink, I refuse to do it out of principle if nothing else. I’ve just gone in to put away the drying up and half of it is still dirty, as usual and he huffs if I ask him to rewash, and huffs if I just finish those things off myself since they’re mainly clean and therefore I can stomach it.
I don’t understand why he has such a problem doing it, if something doesn’t come off with one rub of the sponge he leaves it and assumes it’s just stuck there now! With other housework he’s brilliant, he’ll hoover a room to within an inch of its life until it’s spotless. AIBU to expect, while I’m suffering, for him to just do it without acting like it’s a terrible punishment I’ve inflicted on him?