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babysitting AIBU

10 replies

mazv1953 · 13/11/2018 21:35

I have 2 kids my friend has 4. I have babysat for her on many , many occasions and also helped her kids with their homework and revision for literally hours every week for months. She has babysat for me 3 times. Recently she suggested we make it a weekly event whereby she babysits my 2 (ages 5 and 6) once a week and I babysit hers (16, 13,12,9) for one day. On my day I arranged for them to be already bathed - she was to hear them read a page of their reading book plus read a short story. On my return she had delegated the task to her children with the result that the little girl had gone to bed without her pull-ups and wet the bed and her other children had used our lounge leaving the sticky residue of their popcorn over our throws. She said that by asking her to do bedtime story we were "taking the piss". she had only agreed to babysit ...

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Nothininmenoggin · 13/11/2018 22:17

She is the one taking the piss. No more baby sitting for her then, problem solved.

Santaispolishinghissleigh · 13/11/2018 22:19

Her dc don't need a babysitter!!

StepAwayFromGoogle · 13/11/2018 22:23

Eh? When I babysit I always do bedtime story. Someone is taking the piss here, but it's not you, OP. Tell her the arrangement isn't working.

mazv1953 · 13/11/2018 22:25

They do need a sitter - they are foster children and so can be left with me as I am police checked/trained etc. but can not be left in the care of the older child. However, you would be right were they not in care - the eldest ones could take responsibility

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Hillarious · 13/11/2018 22:44

In all my years of babysitting for friends, the kids were already in bed . . . until it got to the stage when my friends 12 year old son was allowed to stop up and watch Top Gear. Sad

Whipsmart · 13/11/2018 22:48

Does she actually care for her own kids? Or does she see the fostering as a job? Shock

Leeds2 · 13/11/2018 23:00

O would cancel this being a weekly event.

mazv1953 · 14/11/2018 09:21

Thanks all - yep cancelled it. Sometimes when someone does something totally out of left field you begin to wonder if it is you that are unreasonable!

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SuchAToDo · 14/11/2018 09:31

Op i mean this in the nicest possible way but should your friend even be looking after foster kids if she can't even look after your kids, (having her own kids do the job for her, leaving your little girl wetting herself without her pull ups ), she hardly sounds like a model parent if she considers a bedtime story "taking the piss"..

Just because you are police checked/trained doesn't mean you have to be her babysitter...let her look after the kids herself or let her find someone else who is police checked/trained...she is taking advantage of you,

greendale17 · 14/11/2018 09:34

should your friend even be looking after foster kids if she can't even look after your kids, (having her own kids do the job for her, leaving your little girl wetting herself without her pull ups ), she hardly sounds like a model parent if she considers a bedtime story "taking the piss"..

^I agree. Your friend is an idiot and I wouldn’t trust her with my kids

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