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to be upset about friend slagging me

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tiredandemotional18 · 13/11/2018 14:27

Today was breaking point at work, for me.I have a really good friend at work and we also converse?socialise outside work. however, in work when I am clumsy/ spill somethimg/trip/say something inflammatory etc he basically takes the piss. Not in a nasty way, but I am now at the stage where I cannot/eat?drink?prepare my food or pass a comment without it being remarked on to the point that other colleagues now also comment and expect me to fuck up almost. He would never pass these comments to me privately or when we are out socialising on our own so I can only imagine that these comments are for his entertainment and the entertainment of other colleagues. Normally, I take it all in my stride ie comment back, throw in a smart comment etc but today something just snapped and I was sobbing like a child for about an hour after our coffee break. It wasnt what he said, its just that I felt I had reached saturation point with it all. I feel like the butt of everyones jokes. I believe in my heart that he never meant to hurt me but he really has and Im sick of it. AIBU or full of hormones?He has no idea that Im upset as I hid out for the following break but some of my female colleagues saw me..these women are the same ones who will always sayzzz leave Jenny alone , youre always at her etc while laughing etc. Dont get me wrong we really are the best of friends but I think its become a habit of his and my own behaviours are like a self fulfilling prophecy!

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WithAFaeryHandInHand · 13/11/2018 14:30

Oh no! You poor thing.

Yanbu. It’s only funny if everyone is laughing. If you are crying then it isn’t fecking well funny for you is it?

Tell him and the others how hurtful you find it and that you don’t find it funny.

mummmy2017 · 13/11/2018 14:35

Tell him you want it to stop today.
Tell him if he is your great friend why is be bullying you at work.
That if anyone but him was doing this you would be going to HR...

tiredandemotional18 · 13/11/2018 14:49

Dont get me wrong.. I am well able to give it back and can be as abrasive but its becoming daily now and Ive taken to eating lunch in my office now and looking back, every year, i got through this, where I get sick of it and retreat to my room. Even newer members of staff have taken to getting in on the act eg god im turning into jenny now spilling everything..hahaha' should i broach it. he willl be absolutely shocked as he thinks that i take it all in good spirits until yesterday where I said... ' god, and i thought you had matured this year..clearly not etc

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WannabeFrankie · 13/11/2018 14:51

I would definitely broach it with him.

Icey stare for an uncomfortably long time, right in the eye for anyone else who does it.

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