What would you do

[MyCakeFellOnTheGrass]

Firstly I am fully aware dp has been a numpty and he is also aware.

We were getting a new sofa so listed the old one on gumtree. Dp asked a neighbour to let the buyer in and told them to deposit the money in his account . He didn’t want the neighbour to have to faff about with cash. The agreed price was £100, a real bargain.

So it’s been a week since they collected the sofa, and they have not paid and are not replying to messages. Using their phone number DP has tracked them down on LinkedIn.

He is saying he wants to message them saying he will contact their employer if they don’t pay and use that as a contact address for small claims court.

I say consider it an expensive lesson in common sense. Given we know this person has no moral compass and knows where we live, I don’t want to ‘threaten’ them and then have them retaliate.

What would you do?

I'd chalk it up to experience personally. Others may have a different view though.

Put it down to experience and move on.

forget about it . it was a really silly mistake tbh, cant believe anyone would be that..... erm trusting!

Anyone else thinking of the Friends episode where joey voluntarily climbs in a cupboard only to be locked in and burgled?

what does he expect their employer to do?

I'd chalk it up too. What does he expect their employer to do about it?

I agree that it's a lesson learned, you can't trust people.

How much faff would it have been to have the neighbour take the cash on collection? Or the sofa be picked up when you are home?

It depends on who they are and we're they work, whether your DH can handle himself, if you scare easily etc.

"what does he expect their employer to do?"

Tell them to sort it, so there isn't agro at/outside work. If a theft conviction is possible, it can be a stackable reason.

Why doesn't he ring the employer and ask to speak to them?

As for the question.

I don't scare easily and I'm persistent and go by the ethos that we've all got smashable windows. So I'd probably persue and get it.

I agree with you... chalk it up to experience and forget about it. And definitely don't let your DH list any cupboards for sale.

I’d contact them through their workplace.

Threaten them. Frankly. They stole from you.

You need Judge Rinder!

Ring their work and ask to speak to them. Don't explain who you are and if they ask make something up. Once you get hold of who you need to speak to don't be abrupt, just simply ask

Dp sent a message via LinkedIn that he would take legal action if the money was not paid and it has just appeared in the account tonight,

Seems like the cf wanted to see if she could get away with it.

How do people shut down their consciences like that???

Brilliant!

I was just about to say to definitely contact her via LinkedIn first! The very fact she's totally exposed herself as a thief and you know where she works is utterly cringy.

All those saying to just leave it are bonkers!!