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sonandhelpneeded · 13/11/2018 07:31

I've been with this company a year and one of the guys is just plain moody!

He's fine sometimes but other times is just so rude. I don't like the way he speaks to me at times and find myself being nervous of anything I do.

So he was away on holiday but had asked me to complete a particular task. What he wanted couldn't be done, so I explained this can't be done but the alternative is X, it offers a similar outcome do you want me to do this?

His email response was NO. I honestly thought he'd sent this by accident without finishing the.email so I replied "did you send this in error" his response No! I then emailed really? Have I done something to upset you? No response to that!

Now I think that's just rude, I'd given loads of detail and found an alternative etc.

He phoned yesterday and was literally muttering that he felt I hadn't answered an email to another client fully enough, ok that's fine just say "could you confirm the situation in more detail" or whatever.

So he then says well I wasn't annoyed but I did have a grumble whilst I was away! So I'm over it now and I hope you are too.

He's basically saying he was rude on one email because another one wasn't quite what he wanted (it was a small part missed and wouldn't cause any issues).

To be honest I want to discuss this more and say it would've taken 20 seconds to say no thanks, which would've made a huge difference to how I felt about the response!

Am I being petty and should I just leave it? Or sit down and say actually that's not a fair response and if he had a problem he should explain and not leave me wondering what on Earth I did wrong! The two emails were not connected so I was going through the wrong email, thinking WTF have I said to piss him off!!

My gut is to say something.

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Whatsnewwithyou · 13/11/2018 07:39

Is this guy on the same level as you? I thinking should probably say something - otherwise he'll think he can get away with treating you badly. I would just calmly state that you expect to be treated with respect as his colleague just as you treat him with respect. No need to get into a big back and forth about the whole thing but just indicate that you won't accept being treated badly.

Whatsnewwithyou · 13/11/2018 07:40

Oh and definitely do not glorify his little games by asking what youve done wrong - you've done nothing wrong and that is not open to debate.

sonandhelpneeded · 13/11/2018 07:43

He's "above" me technically, but I do regret saying have I upset you, I should've said something like a thank you would be appreciated!

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sonandhelpneeded · 13/11/2018 10:09

Anyone else have any advice?

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Sunsetsaregood · 13/11/2018 10:14

I think that if I had somebody at the same level as me who was being rude then I would be having a chat about professional behaviour and working relationships.

sonandhelpneeded · 13/11/2018 10:15

@Sunsetsaregood he is actually above me, but I still think he should be professional?

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