Childhood freind and I made very vague plans to go traveling in a couple of years (one conversation, just saying how we should do it at some point. Didn’t discuss when exactly, where or any other details).
My BF proposed to me this weeks and I phoned my friend to tell her. The only thing she asked was if we are still going travelling which I hadn’t even thought about till she brought it up. I didn’t get any congratulations or any well wishes. I told her I can’t confirm anything right now as we havnt discussed when we are getting married and I will also have to think about finances. At this point she went off on a rant saying she can’t belive I am picking a guy I hardly know (we have been together for over a year, which she says is not long enough before you agree to marry someone) over her and that I’m choosing him over our friendship. She has basically said that our friendship is over if we don’t go traveling.
I have alway made sure I still do things with her (ie still going out regularly and going on holiday with her) so she dosnt feel like I have replaced her since I have been with my BF.
Yes I could delay my wedding to after we go traveling but in all honestly, I feel like why should I for someone who clearly doesn’t care about my happiness. I really don’t know who is being selfish here, me or her.
AIBU to reconsider our plans to travel now that I’m engaged or should I have automatically prioritied traveling with my freind since we had talked about it first? I probably would have considered delaying the wedding if she had been happy for me but now I feel like I don’t want to even consider it out of sheer principle.