To ask for a hand hold

[truebeliever]

Breaking up with my lying scumbag of a bf this afternoon. Need a hand hold if anyone's around

Handhold, got your back, box of tissues. Whatever you need OP, the MN support network will be here

Take a deep breath, by this evening it will all be over and you'll have your life back

Thank you, I feel so stupid. I fell hook, line and sinker for his lies

Handholding here too.

Once it’s done remember to block him on everything and have some . Bullet dodged and move on with the rest of your life.

You got this

Hand holding here, you're not the first, nor will,you be the last. You can do this !

Just to add to the humiliation I'm sat in the clinic waiting for a std test. Had one after my lying cheating bastard of an XH showed his true colours. Never thought I'd need another.

He's on his way over. He has no idea, his stuff is by the door ready to throw at him.

Good luck. Go get your life back.

You've got this

Truebeliever.I have been there,don`t take him back,thinking of you xx

I've kicked him out. Didn't give him a chance to lie to me some more. He's acting all confused

Well done. He’ll do all the usual tricks I’m sure but stick to your guns. You deserve better.

He's still texting me. I've gone grey rock.

Good on you. Block him from everything and give yourself time to heal.

Hope your results come back clear.

Well done on getting tested.

Hope the lying scum has been and gone already, but handhold here if you need it.

Std clinic! Do you suspect him of more than this latest one? He's not met this one yet. Oh lawd, how horrid, glad you've got shot!

He's gone but still texting me.

Was at the clinic for a coil check anyway so asked them to test as a precaution.

Ah, yes a good precaution. Have you blocked so he won't be able to send any more? You need you space now. Time and space to move on!

True we were chatting in the wee hours last night when neither of us could sleep, I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and throwing the lying cheating bastard out on his arse. Self respect and dignity is priceless!! You are awesome!!

And I hope you have a wonderful night's sleep tonight

I have blocked @Shriek. After I'd told him everything I'd found out. He had no comeback except to accuse me of sleeping with my xh 😂
Thanks for being there last night @Shriek and @Xiaoxiong Hope I do sleep tonight

Oh bless you, well done. I hope you are OK. What a shit; best form of defence is attack (says an abuser!)

Mumsnet, I'm trying not to cave. I've blocked him but so tempted to message him. I miss him so much. Even when I'm thinking of all the lies, about his ex, about this new woman. I must have a sense of extremely low worth.

It’s so natural tk want to message him but please please don’t. Keep busy, go for a walk, write him a letter saying everything you want to tell him but obviously don’t post it, burn it, bin it, rip it, whatever. I hope you feel better soon, from experience in a week you’ll wonder why you left it so long

I'm torn between messaging him and messaging the woman he was planning on cheating on me with to tell her exactly what he's like. I may have accidentally written her number down 😂

I would truly appreciate the heads-up, if not we're me. I really would want to know. Ask if she knew about you.
What I'm not understanding is why you didn't say anything when you discovered this? Why did you not speak to him immediately about it? I would have been livid and upset and not able to continue a normal convo.