Was I being unreasonable

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For the last two weeks my colleague has been late on shift all the time, when she takes over from me. In my line of work I am unable to leave before she arrives, and she knows this. She would just walk in, sometimes up to half an hour late, say sorry and not think anything of it. Last Thursday, I had enough so I said to her I would be grateful if she could leave a bit earlier so that she could arrive on shift on time. She went mad, started to shout at me, became very aggressive and intimidating saying, how dare I. who do I think I am telling her when to arrive on shift, it was up to her! was I being unreasonable? I have only just started working with her, even though we have been colleagues for over a year.

YADNBU - surely you don’t even need to ask! Take this to your supervisor (and tell them you already tried to resolve it but your colleague became aggressive).

No she is because no unreasnable. You have raised it with her, next you raise it with her manager.

Oh this is an easy one! Line managers, supervisor or whoever you report to.
That's who needs to deal with it. Tell them about the yelling and aggression but more importantly, inform them that you will be walking away from your post at the designated time whether colleague has decided to grace you with her presence or not.

I remember this happening to me! Very rude and selfish. In the end I went and got the manager every time and said ‘I’m going now, you’ll need to get someone to cover because there’s no one on my area’. He had to come out himself, she must have had a shock when she walked in and the manager was doing her job for her. Could you do something like that? You’re not being unreasonable!! It’s really really selfish!

I would report her for the lateness (log the times you are able to leave from now on) and her reaction. Good luck

Make of a note over the next week of all the times she's late and raise it with your supervisor/manager.

She is essentially getting paid whikst you do the work. I'd be giving my supervisor the added time I had done due to her lateness and tell them that I expect to be paid.

Too right..... I gave her the benefit of the doubt the first couple of times. I did not say a word to her when she start to rant on at me, knowing that it would have been unprofessional. I just asked if she wanted handover, she did not reply. She snatched the keys out of my hand. I then simply just walked away. The worse of it is we work in an environment where there are vulnerable young adults.

Line manager right away, she's an arse.

Yanbu, she has some cheek. Keep a record this week and report to manager.

I'd be tempted to hand her a bill for your extra time covering her shift over the last few weeks. Why should she get paid for you doing the time.

Dont put up with that for a moment longer. 1) constantly late
2) refusing to do handovers is not doing her job properly
3) abusive/intimidating behaviour towards a colleague
Report ALL 3 to line manager immediately.

Report her for being aggressive and constantly late. She sluvds awful.

The only acceptable response would’ve been ‘I’m so sorry - of course I will make more effort to be on time in the future.’

Get in contact with your manager and report it

Yes agree with PP that you need support from senior staff to tackle this. It’s very inconsiderate to leave you waiting, and hugely unprofessional to shout and become aggressive at a colleague.

I left a job because of this happening, person taking over constantly late and doing very little when she got there. Very small business and atmosphere was bad enough. The “late” person was one of those poor me types always had health problems etc. . Definitely keep notes, she is just taking advantage.

YADNBU, like others have said you need to speak to your/her manager and log it formally.

It is worrying if she reacts like this and is working in that environment. How is she with others?

Now that you have done your duty of trying to address this directly with her, raise this with your manager next along with her unprofessional response.

I reported her straight away because of the level of aggression, it was extreme. I felt very shaken and was in shock. You would have thought I would have stolen all her money and run off with her husband!
The woman in question thinks she is above all others, who do the same job as her. I believe she has spoken to one of my other colleagues about the incident and said that its my word against hers, as there were no other witnesses. So basically she is saying that the company will not be able to do anything.

I did not want trouble and believe me if we were not in the work environment that we were in I would have told whats, what. I think because I did not say a word and just stood there she thought I was scared of her, which was not the case. So now I have to work with this woman, which I feel really uncomfortable about.

I would record on your phone next time. For example if she is half an hour late video yourself at 20 min late and explain you're still at work (do it somewhere obviously at work) and then you have a date stamped record. I'd maybe voice record your future conversations and hand overs with her for your own protection as it sounds like she won't hesitate to blame you if any mistakes are made. Don't let this person wreck your career. What did your line manager say?

Ask you manager how you go about claiming the overtime

Next time she is late, email your manager while you are waiting for her and tell them she isn't there yet, and you are having to stay on and cover for her. Then email them again and let them know the time she actually arrives.

OP you need to escalate this asap. Your colleague is being totally unreasonable. Do you ever have to take over shift from her? If you do rock up half an hour late and see how she likes it.

I have had two phone calls from other colleagues today, saying she is saying, I can't prove anything. She is being a total bitch. If my Manager does nothing, she is going to be even worse with her attitude , like nothing can touch her! I just want to go into work, do my job and come home, I really don't want to be worrying about some nasty bully. What makes it worse she knows that i had to leave work on time to go see to my 88 year old dad who had just come out of hospital. Whats the world coming to is there no common decency around any more, it makes me feel so very sad :(

You cant prove she went off on one, but others must know she is late all the time?