My not very dear husband

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Both my parents died in the last 10 months my mum less than a week ago. he thought it would be a good idea to put a third rate comdey program about dead parents. I can’t find a bad enough word to call him. C..t doesn’t seem bad enough for how I feel. Please drop me a few suggestions x

I need to stop crying and work it out. Divorce will be in progress asap

I am so sorry about your parents and I remember your last thread about your awful husband saying he wanted to leave you. Please do divorce him. You don’t deserve this.

I did mention the inheritance aspect on the other thread. See a solicitor as soon as you can. If you can prove the marriage is over even better if you have any evidence that it was him who asked for a divorce then your money will be safe.

“Inherited assets received shortly before the breakdown of the marriage are less likely to be included in the matrimonial assets for division, depending on whether the other assets are sufficient to meet the couple’s or family’s future needs”

www.bbc-law.co.uk/legal-news/inheritance-and-divorce/

Play clever because it sounds to me like he’s got a plan.

OP, I feel your pain. My now ex-husband thought it would be a good idea to buy me a book about somebody dying of cancer, just after my mum lost a very long battle with cancer because he "thought it would be interesting". Utter cunt. He also hurled a phone straight in my face when I got the (midnight) call to say my mum had died.

Divorce this piece of shit. Please. Also, ask your siblings to keep any inheritance until you have got rid. Because it will go into the pot of your marital assets. Get some legal advice on this. He is hanging around for the money (as mine did). One foot in front of the other. See a good solicitor as soon as you can. I am so sorry for your loss

I don’t have any evidence about him wanting a divorce because I taped it and I don’t think taped evidence will be accepted in any court because you have to inform the person being taped first, I didn’t. However I have 3 bank accounts in my own name so any money will go into tgise

I would see a specialist solicitor about the inheritance as soon as possible OP.

So very sorry for your losses. What an awful time for you, and what a cunt of a husband

OP, don't put any money in your bank accounts. You would have to disclose them all anyway. Just leave the inheritance side and get your petition in immediately. Ask your siblings to keep your share for the time being and get some decent legal advice. My ex tried to cite my inheritance but failed because my father was still alive and not ill. So it was ludicrous. The advice I had at the time was that inheritance would not be taken into account unless my father was on his deathbed and I was about to receive a large sum. Please just seek advice from a good solicitor before you do anything at all.

having just spent in excess of £10k fighting my ex husband through the courts for our divorce settlement I really can’t emphasise strongly enough how quickly you need to act. Keep the recording. It may be of use.

Op your other thread is available on MN still. I don't know whether that would count as supporting evidence, but it might be worth screenshotting?

I would suggest that you don't discuss any of the details of your late parents' financial affairs or your inheritance with him. Try to have a bank account which he does not know about and make it at someone else's address so that no statements or other letters come to your house. Advise the solicitor dealing with any estate monies that they are only to discuss matters with you and not H. Perhaps even set up a kind of password to make sure the solicitor knows that they are speaking to you.

Cant be too careful with some Hs. I had a grabby sponging H but not now.

You need to see a solicitor as soon as possible.

Where I live (US) an inheritance is NEVER a marital asset unless and until it is placed in a joint account/home/asset.

As far as taping the conversation, let a solicitor decide what can and cannot be used. It may very well be that it can't be used in court, but perhaps could be used in a mediation session as a 'reminder' to him of what he said.