AIBU to hope DH would remember dates

[Alfie190]

I am very good with remembering dates, very comfortable with numbers and so on. I have a maths degree and maybe I have an aptitude towards these things. My husband has similar aptitudes as me, he is also scientific, mathematical etc. but he never remembers dates. He knows my birthday, he knows when we got married, but I feel sad that he doesn't remember the day his mother died or her birthday. (She died before I knew him). He only just about remembers his dad's birthdays or his brothers birthdays or his niece and nephews birthdays.

We are currently watching some old but annual very famous TV programs, we were living overseas at the time of the original airing, he has wondered whether we visited the UK in that year.

We visited the UK that year because my sister committed suicide in that year.

If this had happened to him, I would never forget even the date his sibling committed suicide, never mind the year. I don't expect him to remember the absolute time but the year?

AIBU?

YABU, remembering dates is not a choice, some people are just really really bad at it. I have an engineering degree but the only dates I remember are my DCs birthday, xmas day and new years day.

I never remember my parents or my siblings birthday (even forget its my own birthday until people remind me), same issue with new peoples names.

I’m crap at remembering dates. Some do stick in my memory. But others just don’t. I can’t remember the date my mum died. Just the year and month. Yet I can remember the time, date, from when my dad died.

Extremely unreasonable. And a bit naive and narrow in your thinking. Not everyone is like you.

My DP is a bit like you, and I'm more like your DH. DP knows the day/date/time of everything that's ever happened in his/our lives. I don't have a clue, and apart from our birthdays, our son's birthday and Christmas Day, I'm hard pushed to recall the Dard of anything. I have to be reminded of our anniversary, the date DP's father died, etc. It doesn't mean that I don't care about these things, I'm a loving and supportive partner (DP's view, not just my perception!) but it's the events themselves, their context and their consequences that I recall, rather than the day of the year that they fell on.