We are very close to my DHs aunt. She is VERY dependent on us, after the death of her husband and demanding at times, but she is family and we love her despite this.
She got into a new relationship about two years ago, the guy she is seeing is very different to her DH and she openly compared them all the time and was cruel is some ways (calling him stupid etc) , this led to arguments that turned nasty and they broke up.
My DH and I were never keen on him but never condoned her behaviour towards him. We didn't agree with his views on certain things (think old fashioned,out dated stuff) and DHs aunt has a lot of money and my DH felt he was taking advantage and told her this.
When they broke up, we deleted him offer FB etc, as there was no point having him on there.
They got back together, about 9 months ago, and at first she was cagey and secretive about this - fine, it is her business. Then she admitted they are together but his family won't speak to her or accept her because of her treatment.of him.
Here is the thing, whilst they were together the first time, they would take our DS and his grandkids out a lot. It was nice and the kids always got on and had a great time.
Now they are back together, he keeps dropping in my DS presents to her. I have told her that is lovely but we have yet to actually see/speak to him again. But when she has our DS he pops in and sees him.
I have suggested several times we all meet up and maybe have a meal and that she doesn't have to keep him away from us, that if she is happy we are happy etc, but she agrees and doesn't sort anything. I have said I feel uncomfortable our DS receiving gifts from a person we are not in contact with but she says he is just being kind. She then asked if he alone could take our DS out for the day with his grandkids and I said no, not until we had all met up and built bridges again.
Now she has booked tickets for them all to see a Santa Steam Train thing. Again we have said can we have a meal or get together or something beforehand, which she agreed to but is still dodging being pissed down on. She is actively keeping us all separate.
This is bloody odd isn't it? What could be going on? She loves our DS, spoils him, and us rotten and despite all this, we love her and want her to be happy. We were never mean/rude or anything to the boyfriend before, even when he expressed awful views, we just smiled and nodded so no animosity....
Why
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