My Dad has a builder / joiner who he has used for 10 years + to fit new bathrooms, kitchens and general work in his house. I’ve used him a couple of times too and his work has always been good. Let’s call the builder John.
Last week John did some work to renovate a room in my house and to put it bluntly it’s a total disaster, it’s just not finished. He claims the parts I’m complaining about weren’t included in the pricing but it’s just common sense that they need doing!
And a major part that I asked him to do hasn’t been done and he’s denying I ever mentioned it.
I’m in shock as we have used him for years.
He said he will catch up with me next week to have a chat, and I’ve only paid him 25% up front for the materials so still owe him quite a lot of money, which I won’t be handing over until the room is complete.
Anyway here is the AIBU part......
I FaceTimed my Dad and showed him the room and he agreed that is wasn’t finished and I wasn’t BU.
John has just starting doing some major works in my Dad’s house. And my Dad saw him yesterday. I asked if John had mentioned my house and he said “briefly, but I didn’t ask about it as I didn’t really want to get involved”.
My Dad generally doesn’t like confrontation, but he will stand up for himself if it needs to be done. Am I being a princess in thinking he should have mentioned the unacceptable work to John?
If it makes any difference my DF and DSM have just returned from living abroad for 3 years during which my DH and I managed their house which they rented out while they were away and dealt with any UK based admin that needed addressing. Also, my DH works in a trade so my DF always comes to him when he needs assistance and he never takes a penny from him.
But ok the flip side my DF is generous and helpful in other areas too.
He’s coming over for lunch later, would I be unreasonable to mention to him I’m upset he didn’t stand up for me? I really can’t work out if IABU or not!