Trigger warning - stillborn and baby loss

[TryingToSayRightThing]

Trigger warning - stillborn and baby loss

I think was BU - I'm wondering how to avoid doing so in the future.

Somebody I just met recently told me they had a stillborn baby. We were in a public park and our children were playing together so we were just making chit chat. It sort of just came up in the conversation and she told me. There was a flicker of sigh sadness.

I wanted to hug her and talk about it and ask how she is. But instead I froze said 'I'm so sorry for your loss' and we changed the subject.

I have been lucky enough to never had a MC or SB, but have heard a lot lately that people like to talk about their losses and it shouldn't be a taboo. But what if you don't know that person and have just met? If you're in a public place? I didn't want to cause public upset but I didn't want to be insensitive?

A different situation but I have a child with severe SN. It's an emotional subject and although I like to talk about it I don't like doing so in public places as it's just too much of an emotional subject.

Was IBU? What should I have done? I just feel awful.

You have no reason to feel terrible. You said exactly what you should have given the circumstances. She told you what she was comfortable with and you responded in the right way.

Thank you @Aquamarine1029 xxx

You were polite about it and acted in a way most strangers would. If she wanted to expand on that then she could of done. Don’t feel bad.

That's exactly what I would have said and done. If she wanted to talk more she could have.
I don't think it would have appropriate to ask or do anything more.

Sometimes you tell people more to acknowledge in your head that something happened around a certain time. I know I tell people but more that the date was relevant to something. You were respectful, if she wanted to talk more she would have brought it up again.