Can I leave him?

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I have been with my OH for 15 years but I am increasingly unhappy. He has had depression for the last 3 years. It makes him v bad tempered and we live under a thunder cloud at times.

I fantasise about living apart and how happy my life would be just me and the kids.

I don't want anyone else, but I feel completely smothered and just would love my own house and my freedom.

AIBU to move out with the children?

You don’t need to ask anyone’s permission. If you are that unhappy then leave. Life is short, too short to be miserable.

What about doing a trial separation to see if it's what you both want (if it is then go ahead and split properly)...

If you are unhappy you don't have to stay with him, even if you have kids, your happiness matters too and your kids would be far happier if their mother was happy

Well, it sounds like no one's happy atm, neither you nor him! It must be affecting the DC as well. Talk to him about separating - he might be secretly thinking the same thing.

Have talked about it, but I'm the only one working so this makes it harder. He would be pretty screwed if I left him.