I have an 8 month old DS who's decided for the last few weeks to wake up every 2 hours, lots of issues with tendonitis in my hands so I'm in constant pain (I'm with NHS physio for it but can't have injections because I'm breastfeeding), I've had a cold lingering for 3 weeks so I can't quite catch my breath, my stomach has lingering issues since my caesarean, the house is a state (renovation and mess), I'm really behind on paperwork. I do have a lovely DH, I'm still on maternity leave and we have a weekly cleaner. Despite that I'm just exhausted all the time, the pushchair and lifting DS is a struggle and I can't get to a point when things are tidied up.
When we had the baby, I hoped DM would stay for a night or two but she said "You don't need me, you have DH". When I was really behind on paperwork a few months back, I asked PIL for help but they just kept on and on talking to me so they used up all the time until the baby wanted me again so he could have milk and go to sleep. I told my sister I was struggling and she hung out one load of laundry once (maybe 6 months ago). DP and DPIL always want to meet with me and DS for lunch, which means I get nothing done and no rest; it's extra effort when they come here or it's effort with the pushchair if I go out with them. Other family and friends all just come wanting to talk to me, plus usually they come here wanting food and drink, so we have to clean up for them coming, cook and then they leave a mess. I told my friend I was struggling and she just chatted on as though I'd been talking about the shopping. I have DH, but he needs us out of the house to renovate and I get so tired having a full day out because my hands just ache and ache from lifting him. I want to see people, but I feel like screaming that I just want somebody to help me. I want them to push the pushchair to give my hands a break, to lift DS up and down so I get a break, or even to play with DS without talking to me so I can just rest for an hour or catch up on things on my laptop, or do my physio exercises.
I feel like I've asked so many people in different ways, but nobody wants to help me unless it's one specific and immediate thing that takes 2 minutes. Is it because it's very unreasonable of me to be asking for help given our situation? Maybe I am just being weak, but then what can I do to just cope better, how do people do that?