AIBU to be disappointed

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My best friend and I have known each other since we were at school and are really close and have never had a fall out

She just given birth to her first child and I'm in love. But she hasn't asked me to be godmother. I know it's really petty but the people she did chose she is always slagging them off to me and doesn't seem to even like them very much

I am quite a religious person and do attend church every week yet these other 2 never do

AIBU to feel like our friendship means more to me than to her? She is already godmother to my child and without sounding desperate she knew how much it would have meant to be asked to be hers

No YANBU to feel disappointed and hurt. Seeing as you asked her, could you ask her why she didn’t ask you?

Are the other people wealthy or related to her or something?

Can understand your feelings of hurt.

She said the baby's daddy wanted one person and the other is her brother but like I said she doesn't even really like him from what she tells me

To be fair it’s her brother that she’s chosen so in this circumstance I think YAB a bit U. especially if she’s thinking of a guardian type role should anything happen to her.

However it’s odd that they didn’t simply add you in as well. They can have 4 godparents after all.

YANBU to feel disappointed, but try not to feel hurt. They may have felt it fair to appoint one godparent each, so one is his choice and one is hers. And if she's not religious, she may hold the common misconception that a godparent will raise the child if anything happens to the parents. so may have felt a relative was more appropriate.

They got one choice each. She chose immediate family which is perfectly normal and expected.

YANBU, but if its her brother I guess family trumps friendships

Thank for the replies. She's always said to me that I'm closer than a sister to her. But I suppose blood counts for something

We were advised to pick family family God parents as they will always be around so indolent be upset.

I think there is nothing to feel slighted about. It is normal to ask siblings to be god parents and as she picked her brother, her DH got the other pick. It all sounds very reasonable and in no way reflects badly on you or on your friendship.

I am not religious but was brought up as Catholic and it was normal for their only to be two godparents when I was younger, although I know the trend is for more than two now. But maybe they jutted wanted two.

*just

Seems like an odd choice to me.

The brother already has a title - he's the uncle and expected to make an effort. "Mum's friend" isn't particularly meaningful - I thought "godparent" was a way of reinforcing the connection with non-family and is therefore wasted on siblings.

Nothing you can say, but I understand why you feel hurt.

I understand why you’re disappointed but she chose her brother, and he chose someone.

You can still offer guidance and support to the little one in an unofficial capacity.