To ask for my money?

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I really don't want to seem greedy because I'm really not.
I lent my friend £100 as some concert tickets came on sale and she said she couldn't afford them.
She said she would try and pay me £10 a week back (a month ago now and nothing )
Anyway yesterday she posted pics on Facebook of her in a toy shop saying £600 later !
Then on the night she posted a pic of a Chinese box (which is about £15)
Now honestly I'm not being greedy but surely if you can spend all that you can start paying me £10 a week?

Why on earth would you consider it greedy asking for YOUR money back!? The fact you have even thought this is why your 'friend' is taking the piss the way she is. She knows she can get away with it.

In the nicest possible way OP, grow a backbone and demand the money back, in full!!

She’s a total CF! Comment on her post and shame the cheeky arse.

A Chinese box where I live is a box the same size you would put a large pizza in filled with rice, noodles,chips and an assortment of ribs, garlic chicken, sweet and sour sauce etc.

Sorry that doesn't help with the op's problem at all!

You could reply to her FB post: 'Wow!! £600?! Have you won the lottery? If so, could you get my £100 back to me ASAP? I need to get started on my Christmas shopping!'

I'd be demanding my money back. Today!
If she says she can't afford it then comment on the toy shop spend.

I wouldn't put anything Facebook as others have said. Airing dirty laundry in public never goes well and could damage the friendship if you get the money back or not.

I agree with the rest others have said though - tell her privately you think she's taking the piss spending all that when she owes you and obviously never lend to her again

Airing dirty laundry in public never goes well and could damage the friendship
I'd guess the friendship is already damaged. OP needs better friends than this CF. I'm sure she'll get over the loss of this one.

Don't make it public, just message her and say 'are you remembering the loan I gave you....xxx is my bank info if it's easier for you to do online transfer'

You will never see that £100 again.

Have you actually asked her to start paying and what has she said? Have you just not brought it up before now?

Dial number. Say, 'Hi CF. When can I meet you for the £100 I lent you?'

Anyway yesterday she posted pics on Facebook of her in a toy shop saying £600 later !

I would have replied "That's great - but before I start MY Christmas shopping, I need you to pay me back the concert ticket money - later on today would be ideal."

I think there are a lot of cultural difference going on when it comes to borrowing money (not cultural as in ethnicity but Loren family background and attitude) and some people think of a friend is willing to lend it’s no big deal- once they’ve agreed £10 a week that’s what they’re happy with

I agree the Christmas stuff could’ve gone on credit but wonder why the tickets also couldn’t have gone on credit then?

Anyway OP if you want it now, speak to her x

I've learned a hard lesson recently about lending money and giving things.
I know a lady who has 8 kids (6 at home), neither her nor her H work, that's nothing to do with me, however the kids have nothing unfortunately. So for the last four years or so I've given her clothing, books etc my DD who's 14 has grown out of.
On occasions I've lent her money too but it's always been a devil to get it back. Last month I lent her £20 for an electricity top up just after I'd given her my old tv.
Cue many excuses of why she couldn't give me it back.
In the end I sent a polite text saying could she please give me the £20 as it had been a month and I was no better off than her.
All hell broke loose; her H left me THIRTEEN abusive voicemails in half an hour telling me I was 'a stuck up bastard', when he saw me he 'would spit in my face' I was a slag and my kids had different dads (indeed my eldest 3 have a different dad to my DD), his wife would slap me and my 'fucking sons could go up and he'd batter them too' (they're adults)! It was vile. I've never been spoken to like that in my life. When I listened to the messages at work I was shaking and really upset.
All over £20. My mum said to me that no good deed goes unpunished and she's right. I did something nice and when I wanted to return of the money I was the bad person. Never again.
Sorry to derail your thread OP. I'm sure your friend is nothing like the above person but I would be prepared for her to not like you asking for the money backz

angieloumc wow how absolutely awful. I am amazed you didn't report those threats

How can you be greedy or grabby asking for what you are owed?

Contact her today and tell her you need the cash today. She hasn't got it? Well, she can return some of the shit she bought yesterday.

angieloumc threats of violence need reporting, yes police are over stretched but that level of vileness shouldn't go unpunished
I trust they are blocked?

pinky and nofunking, I did report to the police and they took a statement from me, apparently the crimes are harassment and malicious communication. They will let me know when they've spoken to him. It really was quite shocking for me, I've got to the age of 51 without being spoken to like that before.