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To hate calling everyone guy's!

52 replies

thenettyprofessor · 09/11/2018 21:45

This drives me mad. Come on guy's, let's go here guy's, hi guy's etc
Maybe it is because I have two daughters. Anyway I wish this referring everyone as a male would stop

OP posts:
TigerDragonMonkey · 09/11/2018 23:30

What would you use instead? I tend to default to ‘folks’ myself but I’ll alternate ‘guys’ to mix things up if I’m addressing the same group multiple times.

TigerDroveAgain · 09/11/2018 23:33

Come on you chaps: what I say to my all female team

FFS:there are more things to get worked up about than this

Singletomingle · 09/11/2018 23:34

A former boss would refer to everyone as ladies despite the usual 90% male audience.

ShadyLady53 · 10/11/2018 00:12

YANBU. My parents are in their 70s and when I’ve taken them out to nice restaurants for meals for special occasions, it really grates to have the waiter or waitress approach and say “right guys, what are we having?/Can I get drinks for you guys?/Everything alright with you guys meals?”

My older family members aren’t used to being addressed that way and when they themselves worked in naice hotel restaurants this would have been considered extremely rude. They had to use Madam and Sir and be respectful.

Guys comes across as overly familiar and unprofessional imo. Don’t like it at all.

jcyclops · 10/11/2018 00:53

Comrades (always goes down well at the conservative club)

Chickenwings85 · 10/11/2018 01:12

It's better than saying hi wank stains

Sowhatifisaycunt · 10/11/2018 01:15

I’m more irritated by incorrect apostrophe usage.
Guys.

TheWiseWomansFear · 10/11/2018 01:20

Meh, I'm 23. I've grown up with it so it doesn't sound odd to me, it's gender neutral in my group...just like saying mates

BackInRed · 10/11/2018 01:22

Oh gawd I hate this too. I don't have a fucking penis, I'm not a guy!

LuluBellaBlue · 10/11/2018 01:22

Hey you shizdazzles ?!

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 10/11/2018 01:25

I don’t have it as much as people using apostrophes incorrectly

See, I thought this thread was a coruscating critique of the socially constructed paradigms of male 'ownership' of women: the OP hates calling other women "guy's" because it's an oppressive throwback to the days of chattel.

CountFosco · 10/11/2018 01:31

To me it is just a gender neutral term ie not masculine, and doesn’t bother me.

Just like mankind presumably Confused. Guys and gals covers both sexes, guys does not.

Why is everyone so insistent on using terms that erase half of humanity? What is wrong with saying everyone, people, all, folks, coworkers, staff, employees, children, offspring, siblings, friends. Or if they all have too many syllables for you what about 'Hi!'.

ivykaty44 · 10/11/2018 01:34

My aged father always replies and addresses the person referring to us as “Guys” as Penny, they usually just look bemused, & more so if they are male

HotSauceCommittee · 10/11/2018 01:40

I loathe the use of “guys” when addressing a mixed gender group. There’d be outrage if we all switched it to “girls”. This is again a symptom of the dominate gender subsuming the other one. A few years ago I was helping out in my young son’s class and it just got to me that the teachers were using this term when all those little girls were sitting there being addressed as “guys”. Just no.
“Folks”, “darlings”, “good people” and I love “comrades” as suggested by another poster up thread, anything but “guys”. It’s thoughtless and stupid.

Pickupthephone · 10/11/2018 03:52

YANBU. My parents are in their 70s and when I’ve taken them out to nice restaurants for meals for special occasions, it really grates to have the waiter or waitress approach and say “right guys, what are we having?/Can I get drinks for you guys?/Everything alright with you guys meals?”

Completely agree. For some reason all the waiting staff do this in Loch Fyne - it must be part of their script and it really sets my teeth on edge. I can put up with it when it’s addressed to me and my DH but it’s not an appropriate way to address people in their 60s and 70s.

barkingfly · 10/11/2018 04:10

Oh dudes. Chill.

PrincessConsuelaBananahamm0ck · 10/11/2018 04:27

Annoys me too. I find it really cringey and wanky. It started to creep in at work about 10 years ago and now it's used all the bloody time. Before then, it was just 'everyone'. Worked fine. It's definitely over used in restaurants too.

Unicyclethief · 10/11/2018 04:31

ffs there are more things to get worked up about than this like what tiger? Because you could say that about anything right?

ElizabethMainwaring · 10/11/2018 04:36

I loathe it to. I work in a secondary school and it's constantly used to refer to the pupils. It suits some teachers' style but not mine. I'm forever on the lookout for an alternative term to use. Any ideas gratefully received. But not 'cunts', thank you.

BunsOfAnarchy · 10/11/2018 04:44

'Hey peeps!'

That one infuriates me much, much more!
Im a massive culprit of using guys. Soz OP.

Unicyclethief · 10/11/2018 05:29

😂 all the people so worried about the rogue apostrophe. It really changes the meaning of the sentence doesn't it? Or are you just so much cleverer than everyone else? Tossers 😂

Unicyclethief · 10/11/2018 05:29

I mean tosser's

lLikeCake · 10/11/2018 07:37

@CountFosco

guys and gals will forever be a Jimmy Savelleism in my mind Confused

CountFosco · 10/11/2018 07:45

I was thinking about the musical but of course that's actually Guys and Dolls. Both prove the point that guys is not gender neutral though don't they.

masterandmargarita · 10/11/2018 07:54

My fil gets offended by the use of the word guy in restaurants. He does my nut. I have no problem with that or girls to describe women.