Well, I just kind of lost my temper with my partner as he came in earlier and moaned at me about not tidying one thing or another. He's a neat freak and I'm tidy too, just difficult while entertaining a 7 month all day to put everything away straight away. Well after the baby was in bed, I said he should try to take notice of the things that I actually do. Today, for example I've looked after baby most of the day and done a wash, made dinner, washed up and dried up, done baby's bottles, changed the bedding and emptied the bins. He was fine and took baby out for an hour and a half and did some washing up and put play things away when he came in. But then he started going on about the baby sleeping on the bed with me. I started doing this after he stopped sleeping in the Moses basket as he wouldn't settle and I really, really needed the sleep. I've stayed out a couple of nights but other than that it's me who gets up in the morning with our son as my partner might work into the night - he is self employed. Baby does go in the cot for a bit but if he's unsettled in the night, I'll take him onto the bed in his sleep bag and if I'm not too tired, put him back when he settles. It's just so much easier to breast feed in bed! Well I said to my partner that I agree it's not good, I'm trying with the cot but I said maybe he should pay more attention to losing weight as as that's dangerous. He's 5 feet 7 and over 18 stone. Well I said being obese is a risk to your health and we are already older parents, so it's not fair on our baby if he's not trying properly to lose weight. I did use the word obese but I was annoyed and I feel awful but he really does need to do something, doesn't he? I said that's as serious as baby not being in the cot all the time and like I've said, I just needed the sleep! He said I'm insulting him and I'd rather have not said it like that but was I being unreasonable?