To think my brother took this money?

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Lent my friend some money a few weeks again, not a huge amount (£20).

She hasn’t seen me to return it but lives near my mum who I see weekly as she picks DD up from Nursery for me once a week as I can’t get there in time, so friend took it to my mums house. Says she gave it to my brother.

I have no reason to not believe my friend gave the money to my brother, she’s borrowed money off me before and always paid me back, she’s borrowed a lot less than £20 and always paid it back. I have no reason to think she wouldn’t pay it back this time, she’s also borrowed money off my mum before and always paid her back as well. This is a good friend, and she has told me before she doesn’t want to lose our friendship as me and my mum have always been good to her and she doesn’t have many friends.

Brother says he wasn’t given any money, says he doesn’t know about the money and I’ll have to ask my friend for it. We’ve always got on ok but he often says he thinks my mum favours me over him so he may have taken it to spite me/prove a point.

I can afford to lend it and will in no way go without nor will DD without the money but I just feel upset my brother took it.

AIBU to think my friend did give the money to my brother and he’s kept it?

Well clearly one of them is lying but it’s going to be a fucking nightmare to try and work out which one!
Whatever happens you will ruin your relationship with one of them, maybe both.

It isn’t fair and you shouldn’t be down £20 by trying to do the kind thing but you need to work out if the £20 is worth the loss of your relationship with them.

I would probably suck it up and not lend friend money ever again or at least tell her it had to come straight into your hand next time and make sure DB never had chance to get involved in your finances again!

Ask them when they are together.... ?

agree don't say anything to them individually and then bring it up whilst they're together.

Why is she borrowing money from your mum?

I suspect you are right, but you won't get the money back I expect. If you lend in future then make sure people know not to give it to your brother.

@RTFT Why don't you change your name to RTFOP?

i definitely believe the friend.

Why is she always borrowing money?

keyboardkatie I did read the OP, did you?

Jeremy Kyle can solve this one.

RTFT You didn't read the thread. Mum did not lend any money. Sounds weird. How old is your brother ?

@Harpingon haha i admit I thought this too! Get the lie detector out

Seriously tho, ask them when they're in the same room somehow?? It will be easy to see who flusters and will put pressure on the liar.

she’s borrowed a lot less than £20 and always paid it back. Do you mean a lot more than £20 ???

No one can know for sure op but if friend has previously borrowed from you with no issues and also borrowed from your mum it seems odd she'd lie now.

RTFT Apologies. The mum did indeed lend money too !

I would tell your friend what your brother told you but tell her you don't believe him so have gone NC with him. If she is lying she may fess up and if she isn't she won't get him involved again

daffodillament I thought I was going mad, I knew I'd bloody read it!

I think you should get them both together and ask them!

WhatsApp/PM them both. "Hiya, I still haven't got my twenty quid back. DF said she gave it to you DB. Totally fine if you forgot but can you drop it round later?"

I would leave it but if there is a next time I would say don’t give the money to my brother as he didn’t pass it on. You will probably never know and as you said you can afford to lose it so it’s not worth any potential accusations or fallout.

If possible definitely ask them when they're together. You will be able to tell who is lying.

I'd say its your brother lying.
I'd invite the friend round to your Mums, not tell anyone you are both going then ask them both together about it.
You will know then who is lying.

Also, why are people asking why money is being lent? Everyone is different, some people lend a lot amongst friends. My friends and I borrow from each other and my best friend and I have both at some point owed money to the others parents. We're like family.

Get Jezza on the case! He laps this shit up.

Tell the friend DB has admitted stealing it and tell DB friend has admitted she lied about it. The One of their Jaws will hit the floor.