A friend of mine will be 30 next week. She is rather introverted and shy. Her Mum passed away 3 months ago after a long illness, not unexpected but it still hit her very hard.
Another friend of ours decided that it would be great to "cheer our friend up" so she secretly sent an email to about 14 other colleagues (more less friendly with her) with the suggestion that we will invite the birthday child to a girls only dinner party.
This is actually an idea that grew from the original plan of whisking her away to a local restaurant for a quiet dinner for the three of us only.
I personally don't believe that a big party so soon after her Mum's death (and with colleagues half of which don't even know her that well, but they're girls so that's what counts, apparently) is the best way of celebrating a birthday especially as it's sold as a smaller party because her husband told us she doesn't want to have a big celebration as she's still trying to cope with her Mum's passing away.
AIBU to think this will not end up well? Tried to tell that to our other friend but she doesn't seem to understand.