AIBU to not visit dp in hospital this evening?

[HoldingItAllTogetherAgain]

Last night I had to take my partner to A&E again, for a reoccurring problem that causes him extreme pain. This is the 4th time this year he’s been in, and instead of investigating what’s causing it, they’re trying to get the pain under control to discharge him.

All the previous times he’s been in hospital for extended times, think over a week, last time being 3 weeks. And every time he’s been in hospital I’ve visited him everyday, so maybe feeling a little bit guilty.

But I’m shattered, I was at A&E with him all night, and left to get the train this morning and didn’t get home till half 7. I’ve only had 3 and a half hours sleep, I’ve got a uti starting, and don’t really want to travel the 45 minutes to get there when I myself feel pretty rotten.

I know his parents are visiting tonight as they offered to take me to the hospital, so am I being unreasonable to not go? I just want to crawl back into bed, but feel so guilty not being there for him.

You need to speak to him.

He may be fine with you giving it a miss.

Personally I'd visit. My DH was in and out of hospital a lot.

Hmm it's a tough one. I totally know how you feel. Hospital is miserable though, it's nice to have visitors. If it was my DH I would probably go, even if I didn't want to.

I'd go, especially if you got a lift xx

I have been in hospital a fair bit over the years and always find it exhausting to have lots of visitors and was a relief when people said they couldn’t make it. Have a chat with him but he should be fine if his parents are visiting.

I don't think it's a tough one at all, you've gone all along, you need to look after yourself too, he has visitors and he's a grown man, it's simple! Stay at home! Contact him first in case he needs anything so his parents can pick whatever it is up