To feel heartbroken

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Have been in a tricky relationship with partner. Expecting a baby in 3 months.

He is sometimes very angry and aggressive and shouts and swears. I told him today that if he carried on like that then he wouldn't be able to live with me or the baby!

He took this very badly and told me how dare I use baby against him, walked out and left me in the house and didn't turn up to the very important antenatal appointment we had planned to attend together. 😥😥 cried all the way there in the car and am at a dead end now.

Please can someone reply I feel so depressed

In floods of tears and can't seem to think properly

That sounds horrible. It sounds like he was just looking for an excuse to have a row and not go to the appointment with you, sorry. How has been about the pregnancy?

I'm so sorry this is happening, you and your baby both deserve to be in a better situation. Have you got friends or family you can go to for support?

Sending you lots of love 

When you say aggressive? Sorry your having a naff time op, but soon your babies going to be here and all this will pale in comparison. You'll have your little one to focus on, keeping them safe from aggression and arguing parents is the best thing you can do

Bless you. You were right to tell him you won't put up with his behaviour. He can stomp and bail out all he wants, you want the best for your baby. Stick to your guns.

Have you got any support nearby? I felt overwhelmed when I was pregnant, sharing worries with someone, or mumsnet, can really help x

Sorry you're going through this but he seems very immature to let an argument come in the way of attending an important medical appointment concerning his child. I would be fuming. Do you want to stay together? Is he working on changing? X

You said and did the right thing. Now is the time to gather together all the support you can - friends, family.

Whatever happens with him you can do this without him. Your baby does not need to grow up in a household where aggression and fury is the norm. And you don’t deserve that either.

It sounds like a very difficult situation. Please prioritise yourself and your child. Do you have a friend (or parent/sibling/family member) you can call for support?

He's shown his true colours. This isnt a couple of hours meltdown and needing a break. He wanted an excuse to go.

He's a twat. LTB

I assume you aren't married? Do you live together?

I think it might be a good idea to take a break. Yes, he will always be the baby's father, but that doesn't give him free rein on aggressive behaviour. He doesn't get to say whether he stays DP or not.

I would try as much as possible to separate the relationships - yours with him, and DC with him. Then he will understand that you are focusing on his relationship with you and whether it is sustainable.

Sorry that he missed the appointment. That must have hurt. But you can't turn back time, so look forward to what changes you want to see happen.