My closest friend and i have been friends for a very long time. I met my dh through her dh and we both have 2 dcs. I recently moved 150 miles away, and her and her dcs came to stay a couple of months ago. They came for 5 days. This is when i noticed how different our parenting styles are.I'm a lot more uptight, strict and 'fussy'. She is very laid back and imo lapse. She is loud and brash by nature and i'm not really. We don't seem to have many interests in common anymore, she likes shopping etc, i'm really into things like walking and cooking. Her stay was very stressful as my dcs are a tad 'sensitive' and dd had chicken pox and spent the entire 5days crying and upset any time friends ds came near her. My dh doesn't handle hectic loud situations very well, and one evening he was in a bit of a strop and it created a bit of an atmosphere. The following week friend rang me and said "oh my god, how do you put up with dh? I had no idea he was like that etc.." I told her not to take it personally. Dh (and me) are offended that she brought this up considering she was a guest. Dh will never have anything to do with her now and i have to say i am starting to feel the same way. Also it has been both her dc's birthdays since then and i have sent a card (no present i'm skint) I know she's had some sort of party for both, but hasn't even mentioned it to me. I just don't know how to feel about this 'friendship'anymore.