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To visit elderly family friend in hospital after fall with baby?

21 replies

Spanglyprincess1 · 08/11/2018 11:39

They broke hip n had surgery, I'm on mat leave so loads of time to pop n visit during daytime as I bet they are bored.
Someone seemed shocked as baby of four months wouldn't be allowed. Why wouldnt they? His small n in a sling and I can't leave him. Is this a thing?

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Tirednessandmoretiredness · 08/11/2018 11:41

It's not about size and space it's about germs in hospital. Give the ward a ring to see if they allow babies.

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Spanglyprincess1 · 08/11/2018 11:44

Yeah I get that but he's not in for anything contagious and baby goes into hospital for some appointments since born anyway. I will check with the ward

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 08/11/2018 11:47

I think our local hospital has a rule where only patients children can visit until the age of 14

BlueBug45 · 08/11/2018 11:48

OP a friend of mine visited a relation in hospital with a wiggly one year old. The relation was in hospital for a heart condition. So some hospitals will allow it just check with them first.

CocoCharlie83 · 08/11/2018 11:54

Just because your friend isn't contagious doesn't mean others in his ward won't be.

Plus a lot of sick or injured people in the hospital won't want to hear a child crying when they are trying to rest and recover.

I'm not against you doing it but those are just a couple of the reasons why it may not be allowed. Having had long term hospital stays in the past it really helps to have visitors so hopefully you can go.

Your friend probably won't be mobile but if they are able to get in a wheelchair there may be communal areas outside the ward you could visit.

HoleyCoMoley · 08/11/2018 11:59

There may be germs on the ward which you don't want your baby to pick up, can you meet somewhere else like the restaurant.

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Spanglyprincess1 · 08/11/2018 12:06

He won't be mobile due to age etc. We will check. Just seems sad them being alone if I am free n able to visit

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Louiselouie0890 · 08/11/2018 12:06

Germs, letting other patients rest rather than listening to a baby? I would not be bothered before someone jumps down my throat.

haggisaggis · 08/11/2018 12:17

I would normally say it’s a good idea but my mum (80) fell and broke her hip and had surgery so was in hospital for a bit. While in hospital she was very confused. Before that time she would speak to anyone and loved company - in hospital she was quite grumpy and bad tempered and definitely not up to making polite conversation! Your neighbour of course could be completely different but I would check with someone else on how he is before you visit with the baby to make sure he is up to it.

user1484424013 · 08/11/2018 12:44

My husband had a rig fitted in July. He was in for 9 days. I took then 7 month old baby in and daughter's 9 and 6 at the time. Wars full of people having ops. I also took the baby to his 7 weeks of radiotherapy and chemotherapy as I can't split in two. They actively encouraged baby being around as she cheers the anger waiting room up. So ignore some of the arsehole on here with no experience. Also had a chat with a doctor the other day my husband is on lick down ad the 2 older girls had the nasal vaccines and as it's live you can't be near anyone who received radiotherapy and chemotherapy and she said that too many people are too precious about children's and hospitals and like to apply the blame to the nhs. So yes you an take a 4 month old to a ears for a broken hip. As for germs as long as you are not painting them in your child and rubbing the paitenets with it you are set to go. And as someone with a lot of experience and had to learn so much about cancer and germs and all that jazz some.of the advise on here is pathetic and some of you mumsnetters are crazy tickets t
Who should not give an opinion on a flower let alone actual life.

NationalShiteDay · 08/11/2018 12:49

I wouldn't do it.

Hospital worker here, lots of experience of germs. Hospitals are full of all sorts of germs, especially at this time of year. They're in the air not just on things that the baby will touch Hmm

you don't HAVE to take the baby, they're not visiting a sick parent/sibling.

Fine if you've got no choice, but you do, so I wouldn't.

Tiredmum100 · 08/11/2018 12:59

I took my dc in to a hospice to visit my grandmother. She died by the time he was 4 months old. I'm not so sure if I would have taken him into the ward she was on at first it a big teaching hospital.

Confusedbeetle · 08/11/2018 13:02

Personally I wouldnt if you can find a sitter. Not really worth the risk to the baby or to patients. Babies are both vulnerable and super carriers

NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 08/11/2018 13:08

Call and check but I think it's a lovely idea. I've been in hospital several times and had visitors with babies come in without it being an issue.

Evilspiritgin · 08/11/2018 13:14

I don’t think it’s a problem, most older people love seeing babies

Evilspiritgin · 08/11/2018 13:19

Meant to say when my grandpa was getting his hip done we used to take our lab puppy into see him, infact years ago (30 odd) after he’d been knocked down his own dog at the time used to take himself off to see him (cottage hospital ground floor)

Eeeeek2 · 08/11/2018 13:22

I was in hospital when my ds was 6/7 months. He wasn't allowed on the ward, once I was mobile again they allowed him to visit in the day room.

CocoCharlie83 · 08/11/2018 13:58

So ignore some of the arsehole on here with no experience.

Nobody on here has been an a-hole to the OP so no need for the attitude. OP asked for

Pot and kettle...

CocoCharlie83 · 08/11/2018 14:00

So ignore some of the arsehole on here with no experience.

Nobody on here has been an a-hole to the OP so no need for the attitude. OP asked for the reasons and has been given them, you'd think people were calling the OP a terrible parent or something the way you have gone on. And the responses for the vast majority have said she should visit

Pot and kettle...

janisposh · 08/11/2018 14:01

So ignore some of the arsehole on here with no experience

There is only one arsehole here.....

OP call and ask, everyone's experience is not the same.

Varmints · 08/11/2018 14:04

I have a relative who has been in hospital for 6 weeks and my dcs are not allowed on the ward as no under 12's.

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