Weed smoking neighbour

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Next door to our house is a shop with a flat above, which means our bedroom is level with the living quarters. About 6 months ago, a new neighbour moved in. We are in nodding 'hello' terms. He is quiet and an otherwise good neighbour, but has a fairly severe weed smoking habit, which we can smell in our bedroom at all hours.
He must smoke all day, and it is extremely pungent, as it comes into our room as early as 6.30 am before he goes to work, and last thing at night.
I like the windows open, as am peri menopausal, and often boiling hot, but the smell is vile.
I have no moral objection to his habit, other than the stink, which is affecting us daily. (we also have pre teen DC, who I would prefer we're not exposed to this constantly)
AIBU to knock on his door and ask him to keep his windows shut while he is smoking, or should I put a note through? He could completely deny it's him - I have never actually seen him smoking, but it's very obvious where it's coming from.

I would go speak to him, a note might seem quite threatening and rude if he takes it the wrong way. A polite word over a warm hello is more likely to go down better I think?

I'm afraid you just have to live with it. It's not as if weed smoking is illegal or anything....oh, wait...

I don't think it will help neighbour relations.
We've had the same. New neighbour directly downstairs (low rise flats) smokes it before work, after work and all weekend! Also keeps the window open which I find funny because surely it's because he doesn't want the smell and smoke on his flat, so we have to suffer.
We complained to the council (both flats are council), nothing changed, we complained again.
Eventually got a visit from the council and he's said it wasn't him so there was nothing they could do.
I said almost no one is going admit to their landlord that they are smoking in their property. They just shrugged and said that's the end of it.
I live with DH, a 15mo and I am nearly 5 months pregnant. It makes me feel sick at the moment and I don't want to smell it all day. But he said it's not him, so he can smoke away all day if he wants.
It's shit but it is what it is.
I've seen and smelt the smoke coming out his window, I've seen him in his car with his grinder rolling a spliff, and there was no weed smell until the week he moved in. But he said it's not him.
It's so shit and not fair on the other tenants but literally most landlords, police of any one care about it any more.

I would go round and just ask him, he probably doesn't realise quite how much it stinks and how far it travels. He'll probably be glad of the warning, after all, someone else may smell it and call the police.

Pop over with a belated housewarming gift - a weed vape pen! Then he won't need to buy tobacco, saving him money, and the stink is cut by 90%. Win-win!

He might also be growing. We had that with a neighbour. Stank all the time for weeks on end. Worth reporting to 101 and environmental health.

Speaking to him is the best plan, but I doubt he'll stop because you asked.

Can you get an oil diffuser like they sell in muji (or Amazon) and put some lemon oil innit to help? I know it's not the answer but it will help with the smell.

Thanks all - I popped round but he didn't answer the door. I'm going to try and catch him as he is coming or going. It was the same this morning at 6am - I don't know how he does it!? He then goes to work so god knows what he does for a job that he can do it stoned all the time!

Tbh I speaking to him won’t change anything. He will deny it, laugh in your face or possiblely tell you to F off and slam the door on you. All weed smokers no it stinks same as smokers in general they just don’t care

My neighbours used to smoke weed (and we were convinced they were growing it). It absolutely stinks so I understand your frustration. I'm sure it was seeping in through the walls .

Anyway I got fed up of my washing stinking of it whenever I hung it out to dry so I asked if they could close their back porch window when they smoked out there. They took it well, closed the window, and while they still smoked and it still stunk, they at least tried to be considerate. So it may be worth a friendly chat. It only ended for us when one of the neighbours moved out (after being chased down the road by a burly bloke with a crow bar), the remaining neighbour doesn't smoke it now. Good luck, it's bloody awful.

The type of person to do this in the first place is probably not likely to care that it's bothering you, but you could try.

(Personally, I don't see that a non-aggressively-worded note is any more threatening than a face-to-face meeting-- especially if he's not answering the door. But then again, it does seem that MNetters in general don't like notes put through doors...)

Are you sure he's smoking it and not also growing it?

If the smell is constant I'd guess at a grow.
Are any of the other properties empty or seem empty?

Can you find out who the landlord is and complain to them? I have a no smoking provision in my tenant's lease (inc. weed) and reserve the right to claim redecoration costs to remove any smells.

chillpizza

Tbh I speaking to him won’t change anything. He will deny it, laugh in your face or possiblely tell you to F off and slam the door on you. All weed smokers no it stinks same as smokers in general they just don’t care

Impressive psychic powers you have there. What other things can you predict?!

He may be growing it - but there is a distinct smell a couple of times a day - worst is the morning one when I am lying in bed and just get a nose full of it and then throughout the evening - doesn't bother me when we are downstairs but when we come to bed I can smell it again. I'm going to try and catch him and speak to him first and then approach landlord if I can't get hold of him. I am reluctant to put a note through as it feels a bit passive aggressive. As I say, I couldn't give two hoots about his lifestyle choice, just don't want to smell it while I'm having my morning coffee!

I think I you make it clear you don't care what he's smoking, and just the smell is bothering you it probably will be fine to go over. Hope it works out!

It's not passive aggressive to express your concerns in writing, at all!

I would also speak to the neighbours to gather any other available support for extremely anti-social and enforced passive smoking issues support?

No, not all ppl that smoke weed are nasty, vile, crims.

There are many professionals out there doing it, who don't do anything criminal other than their foul smoking habits.

I had ppl in my team that smoked it socially, and certainly was aware of others in other depts that would smoke it before work, how the hell,idk either!

all

Neighbours the other side of the shops call him 'the toker' so it's pretty universal it's him. Their bedroom is on the front tho, so the smell is not such a bother. I've knocked again tonight - no answer,predictably. I'm putting a note through tomorrow, bollocks to it. Thanks for your opinions all.