Aibu to post a self indulgent thread ignore if you want

[Fuckimdoingaphd]

Facebook reminded me.

And this is outing so N/C.

11 year ago I was in an abusive marriage. With a man who told me I was thick and stupid and would never get a degree.

We split.

I applied to university on tea encouragement of a then boyfriend and a wonderful course director who is now a friend took a chance on me. I was 40. Graduated at 43. So fuck you ex.

I got my degree.

I worked for a bit but always wanted to do a PhD in an area I had been really interested in when I was doing my degree.

A year ago today I heard I had been accepted and I’m doing a PhD.

You can do anything. Nothing is impossible. People like me don’t do PhDs. Except. They do.

(But today, this week, I want to throw the bloody thing out the window because I have writers block and it’s a bastard and it smells of poo)

I will get my PhD and it’s ended up being so much more than I ever thought. I only ever wanted my degree to piss off my ex but it became a journey (puke I sound so gack when I say that) and I discovered new friends and a whole different world view.

I still can’t beleive it. Me. A PhD. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I am knee deep in it and at times I want to buck it out the window but today Facebook reminded me of how good it was too.

Absolutely no point to this post 😁. As you were.

Amazing! Why shouldn't you post - it's certainly made my boring Wednesday morning more inspiring!

Well done - go get that PhD!!!

And I hear win/gin helps writers block? 🤓

That was meant to be wine/gin! 

Congratulations OP, it's always nice to hear of people overcoming difficult things and finding their happiness at any age. I'm supposed to be heading back to Uni but I have been having a major crisis of confidence over it, you've given me a little boost in the right direction OP.

Well done!

Wow! Well flipping done, you little legend! Honestly, this is so inspiring and reading your post has come at the right time for me. So, thank you!

That is fabulous. Good for you. I'm glad you posted it, you might give strength to someone going through what you did. Be proud of yourself.

That’s amazing! Good for you.
Always good to be able to stick two fingers up at a dickhead of an ex!
I hope you fix your writers block xx

Congratulations on your achievements so far and good luck for the journey to come. We all have it within us to do what we want to do. Fear of failure is our biggest enemy so do not be afraid.
Well done!!

Fantastic! Well done you!

We need more posts like this around here. Well done and good luck!

Congratulations on being persistent! A phd is a rocky road. This might help? Or anything from the thesis whisperer. Take a break. Writer's block will go away.
thesiswhisperer.com/2012/05/08/the-valley-of-shit/

Awh thanks I am very proud of myself but I don’t want to come across like I’m a wanker.

Never too late to educate!

Well done - onwards and upwards

Own it! Doing a phd is fucking hard work and a huge achievement. I have a little smile to myself every time I get to tick the 'Dr' box on a form x

p.s I finished mine age 44 and I was nowhere near the oldest in the cohort. It's never too late.

I’ll be 51 when I finish if I finish on time. Well. 51 at viva.

I can spell as well.

That’s amazing! What a lovely story to read on a Wednesday morning.

Dr Fuckimdoingaphd

You’re an inspiration to someone like me who at 26 and a SAHM feels like life is over and I’ll never amount to much after pretty much failing every course (barre hairdressing) since school. Got into diploma L3 in childcare straight out of school and didn’t last a year.

Well done OP ! I’m glad to know there’s winners out there

Well done!!

I aspire to be where you are. A family that convinced me I was too stupid to go to university, a surprise baby at 20, and here I am waiting to hear if I have an interview with Cambridge anything is possible!

Oh Rixera. Good luck! Let us know!

And to anyone else - you can do it.

Don’t get me wrong the ex still sneers that my degree and PhD aren’t from what he considers top notch unis but I don’t care. The Dr in front of my name will be spelled the same regardless of where I got it from.

Well done OP. That's a brilliant achievement but you really need to stop caring what your ex thinks. Otherwise he is still 'winning'

To be a Dr in your field 😁 that is amazing.

Well done you! I hope this thread inspires others to follow their dreams. I graduated with a first in 2010, at the age of 47. What motivated me to get on and do it was the sudden death of a close friend. We all think about 'one day' but life is so unpredictable and we really do need to seize the day. My DH ran his first marathon also at the age of 47. Having goals and striving towards them is so important, and we should never fear failure. I'd rather fail (and have at various things) than have to admit I never tried.

Oh I don’t care. He does. That’s his problem.