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Who should pay ?

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Mum2mum2018 · 06/11/2018 21:28

My daughter, fiencee and my self stayed away at a family's house for a night .my partner messaged our good friend who lives right by us to check on our two rabbits and to feed them. When we arrived home this morning the rabbits were free running so the cage wasn't closed how it should of been I know mistakes happen . We got the rabbits in the cage and started to check our flat as rabbits being unadented and carpets don't mix as we soon discovered. The carpet In my daughter room has been bitten and scuffed quite bad. We told our friends what happened at first they said just patch it up ?I said it needs to be ripped up as our landlord will charge us. They have offered to pay for a new carpet but I feel awkward accepting there offer if it's the wrong thing to do please help

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FissionChips · 06/11/2018 21:30

No good deed goes unpunished.

Ywbu to take their money.

BuildingQuote · 06/11/2018 21:30

I wouldn’t think it right to let them pay but it was really good of them to offer. They took this on for you as a favour so it feels wrong to punish them for it somehow.
Incidentally might you have contents insurance you can claim on?

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 06/11/2018 21:31

I wouldn’t accept the offer, the damage was caused by your pets and the friend was doing you a favour. It’s unfortunate but sadly these things happen!

HellenaHandbasket · 06/11/2018 21:33

Good of them to offer, but you would be unreasonable to accept.

Bangwhistlepop2 · 06/11/2018 21:33

Can you or the landlord claim it on the insurance. Your friend shouldn't have to pay as they did you a favour. Accidents do happen but the innocent party here, your friend, shouldn't have to pay.

confusedmomm · 06/11/2018 21:33

I wouldn't take the money, but would appreciate the fact they offered

Alfie190 · 06/11/2018 21:33

Of course you should not take their money!

They did you a favour and you take money off them because your rabbits damaged your carpet? Are you serious?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 06/11/2018 21:34

Do you have house insurance? It was their fault but if they were doing you a favour and it was a genuine mistake it’s pretty mean to make them pay.

MrsStrowman · 06/11/2018 21:34

It was nice of them to offer, but you shouldn't accept unless you specifically said to them the rabbits need to stay in the cage because they destroy things. They were doing you a favour

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 06/11/2018 21:35

You'd be U in the extreme to accept their money - if they have any DIY knowhow and can help patch it up I'd accept that, but damage done by your own pets is your own responsibility no matter what.

bringbackthestripes · 06/11/2018 21:36

You have rabbits caged up in your house? YABU they should be able to run around outside freely or in a run. That aside. You asked someone else to look after them, they didn’t cage them in correctly, YWBU to complain about it- pay for bunny boarding or suck it up. They are not responsible for your damaged carpet, they were doing you a favour.

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Mum2mum2018 · 06/11/2018 21:45

I haven't taken any money from them or did I ask them for any. Of course I know it was my pets that did the damage. It's a expensive missake for my self. My sister in law thinks they should pay but I told her how could I let them pay for it as I know there situation but ours isn't exactly any better. They already owe us a lot of money so I know they can't afford it .its awkward it feels like I'm in the middle as my partner also thinks they should pay and I don't want to take money from friends

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Returnofthesmileybar · 06/11/2018 21:46

No way would I take it. Do you plan on moving immediately? If not you have time to replace it yourself surely.

Granted I don't own rabbits, but exactly how badly can a rabbit damage a carpet?

If I were you I wouldn't have even mentioned it to my friend tbh

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Mum2mum2018 · 06/11/2018 21:47

They already know rabbits stay in cage and not allowed out unattended

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Mum2mum2018 · 06/11/2018 21:51

It's a indoor cage not a out door one and we also feed there cats when there out its never happened before its not me that's wanted them to pay it's my partner I'm stuck in the middle

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Eilaianne · 06/11/2018 21:55

er, you should.

your friend was doing you a favour, it went wrong, your pets damaged your landlord's carpet.

cough up OP.

why on earth would your partner think your pets damaging your landlord's carpet is something your favour-giving friend should suck up? it was accidental, and they were, you know.. doing you a favour. next time pay for professional pet sitting because then they'd have professional insurance cover to claim from. if he wants a route to less risky pet sitting, he'll have to pay for it -of course.

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Mum2mum2018 · 06/11/2018 21:55

Yes we need to move as I'm pregnant so need some extra space. My partner told them as we are friends and they would of done the same thing. Like I've said I don't expect them to pay for the damage they offered and I haven't accepted I just don't want to ruin our friendship and I want to do the right thing

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NoMudNoLotus · 06/11/2018 21:56

This is why i put my rabbits in boarding every time we go away , even if for 1 night.

You cant do pets on the cheap unfortunately... they are a big responsibility.

Alfie190 · 06/11/2018 21:58

Why are you still even thinking about this? It is ridiculous, you cannot punish somebody for doing you a favour! Your partner is an arse if he thinks this is ok, it isn't.

I also would not have even mentioned it to my neighbours.

That you look after their cats and that they owe you money is totally irrelevant. Don't lend your neighbours money.

Eilaianne · 06/11/2018 21:59

OP, the "right thing" here is to not mention it to the friend, and use professional services next time (either in-house or boarding).

bimbobaggins · 06/11/2018 22:00

Don’t take the money for the carpet and stop lending them money if they already owe you a lot of money.
I’d be more annoyed about that if I were you

Boohissmiss · 06/11/2018 22:05

Of course you shouldn’t take the money. It’s your pets and they were doing you a favour. Things happen and it your responsibility to pay for the carpet not theirs.

Singlenotsingle · 06/11/2018 22:05

I know this is off subject, but do you really keep your rabbits in a hutch indoors? Are they being punished for something? They should be outside with a run so they can stretch their legs and eat grass

HauntedPencil · 06/11/2018 22:05

How about you accept the money as it means you can get the carpet repaired before you move, however you say that you are happy to take this off the money they owe you?

I don't think they should have to pay. They made an error on the hutch but they weren't to know that the rabbits would do this damage, even so if you ask for favours to feed pets I dont think you can expect money back if something like this happens.

HauntedPencil · 06/11/2018 22:06

If I was owed money for a long time I would be very tempted to take it, not for the carpet but off that tbh

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