Nursery Feedback queue

[LOliver123]

Went to pick my son up from nursery , the nursery worker was giving feedback to another parent, waiting my turn - was taking ages , Feedback of the day was over but they continued on.

Thought rather than lurk , I would go get my child’s coat, came back still talking ! Continued to wait - still talking. By this stage - I got really frustrated and said - right we are going to go - and the nursery worked did look sheepish/embrassed and said - oh he had been fab.

We turned and went - and I said to my son - you tell me about your day. Was I bu or do you think the other person should of been more mindful of others waiting!

YABU and very rude. If you don't know that then you're even more rude.

MrTrebus, thanks yes, your right I was. It was an age though and I did ask my son then out of earshot. I was so frustrated as I thought - if others are waiting - you need to just give the feedback and go

Don’t they have a communication book where they write about your child’s day? It’s doesnt sounds at all practical to have parents queue up to be told one by one, with other parents listening, about their child’s day. How long must that take?

But you don’t know what they where talking about or how important it may have been.

With a child old enough to answer “how was your day” I wouldn’t expect handover feedback unless there was something important/specific

I try to be patient in these circumstances because you never know whether there is some particular issue or situation that needs them to talk for longer. I would hope others would give me that benefit of the doubt if I needed more handover time with my child.

How old is your ds? At my dn (2.5) nursery ( private) they had a little book with a tick box stamper to correspond to snacks/ toilets etc but at my dc ( school nursery) they only ever spoke to pick up person if there was a problem or issues. We had to make appointment.

They did when he first started when he was 8 months. But now he is pre school age (3) they just feed back verbally. Usually it works ok , as it is just a run down of what they ate, did today etc .

But because this ran into a conversation as the feedback was over . oh wait to you hear , oh what’s that you want a biscuit - opening up a biscuit etc - it was sooo long .

I felt I wouldn’t do that - as I would see others waiting . But I guess I was rude

How old is he? Maybe you need a bit of a handover with a baby (feeds, naps etc) but with older children don't you just pick them up and go? I collect a three year old from a nursery and don't routinely get any feedback - I assume that if they had anything they needed to discuss they would let me know, the child lets me know what's he's done, what he had for lunch etc.

Oh it was definitely general chat , she was stood right next to me . It is a pre school room so all same age

They give feedback to all - quick run down

If I was in a rush I'd just go, if something major had happened then they would have said to you.

When it's busy at pick up that's what I do, sometimes it's not so busy and you can have a longer chat.

I don't think Pass Agging via a child is ever a good look though OP.

Remember once when my DC went on something without a clear queue, and another parent followed me around saying to their kid what do we do, WAIT OUR TURN. Honestly would have preferred if they'd just said excuse me we were waiting and I'd have apologised.

How many kids where left that only one nursery worker was there?

DD is in preschool, there are usually other parents there when I pick her up but there is always more than one member of staff, even if there are 3 kids or less left. We have an app they update anyway but they do update us. If they’re all busy I just grab DD and give a quick wave to the closest nursery person to let them know we’re leaving.

Assume everything is ok unless told otherwise. I wouldn’t wait around for feedback everyday tbh. If there was an issue they would make sure and speak to you before you left.

Did you need feedback? If not you were fine to go on.

Wait until you get to primary school - they tell you NOTHING!!!

There was three of us - the lady having the convo , me and another behind me . Yeah I must start doing that - I just had never had a problem before , and he has been there since he was 8 months.

I think YABU. I can’t imagine the situation, I have a 3yo at preschool, but these things happen. If he was fine then what’s the problem? Next year he’ll be a school at there is no way a teacher would give you a daily update. Chalk it up as a one off.

Thanks Littlecafe, yeah there was no problem, and they did shout he’d been fab. Was just getting frustrated - and acted very curt !

Sorry I meant that surely unless there were only 4 kids or less left them there must have been more than 1 member of staff there? Or else they aren’t sticking to the ratios.

MynameisJune, it was the very end of the day, in his room, there was only three kids left , and the one nursery worker , so ratio wise fine. Yes other staff members , in other rooms, ie toddlers, etc - but they are responsible for other kids. Each child has a designated key worker who gives the feedback to parents