To be less tactile now I'm PG?

[PartridgeJoan]

Currently 23 weeks pregnant with horrific pelvic girdle pain which makes every movement painful and has left me feeling like I just want everyone to keep their distance.

DP keeps getting upset that I'm not touchy enough (I never was touchy in the first place) and I 'don't put enough effort' into kissing him and maybe I don't love him as much anymore?

I've tried explaining that I just don't feel like being touched atm. I've explained how much I love him. I spent two hours mapping out our budget so we can buy a house and worked hard for this pregnancy to happen so to hear him say things like that is actually really upsetting and I'm starting to feel like he's not being understanding enough. The constant comments and criticism is starting to really upset me.

I know it must be upsetting him that I'm not really tactile, but I feel like I'm kind of entitled not to be right now! Am I being unreasonable?

He needs to grow the fuck up.

You’re not being unreasonable, PGP is horrendous.

I’m 29 weeks and ache like nothing on earth.

Thankfully my husband is a grown up who understands the toll pregnancy is taking on me and is going out of his way to do anything to help.

you need to pointedly and clearly tell your DH that, although his feelings matter, you have physical problems and don't need his emotional baggage fucking with your emotions on top right now. can he just put himself and his needs aside for a bit and have some empathy?

28wks with placenta previa and a horrible history of loss so there's not been much in way of physical attention during this pregnancy.

Dp has been fine about it but i do feel guilty.

Starting to suffer at work with physical pains now too even though i am just sat all day. Honestly if i could take maternity leave now i would! 6 weeks left today.

I'm glad it's not just me who has become less touchy feely at this stage of PG! I do feel bad that he's not happy with the level of physical attention he gets but more often than not I'm just focusing on trying to manage the pain!

That actually sounds really bad painwise. Have you spoke to your midwife or physio about the pain?

@Rarfy sorry to hear you're in so much pain 

@Rarfy yes I'm paying for physio (since the NHS ones aren't great with PGP) and have also started Aquanatal!

Doctors prescribed codeine but DP and I agreed this would be a last resort since baby can get addicted.

It's definitely getting more manageable, but by the end of the day I'm usually sore and a bit fed up (now working from home all the time which can make me a bit moody as well I admit)

Oh that's really tough but glad to hear physio is helping. Shame you have to pay for it. Aquanatal will hopefully be good too.

I understand about painkillers they would be a last resort for me too.

Luckily i dont think mine is anything to worry about just general aches from being sat all day but only happens when i am at work. Does make me fed up though plus work feels stressful as i aren't getting chance to wind down which for some stupid reason i thought i would. Was expecting a handover period but with only 6 weeks left its not going to be much of one now.

Pelvic girdle pain is pure hell. It's exhausting and makes you so miserable and there's no let up from it, nobody believed me at first. I had to make my mother Google it before she'd believe it's real. YANBU.

I'm 37+3, have had horrendous PGP since week 18 and am now on crutches for when I really do need to walk, but trying to avoid moving at all costs because the pain is unimaginable. You aren't alone, but people who haven't experienced it just do not understand. You do pretty much everything pivoting on your pelvis so when it's so painful it's a miserable existence. My DP has been amazing but it's been quite stressful and frustrating for both of us. It's hell. Be kind to yourself.