Nursery keep giving 2yo DS Haribo... AIBU

[Zara87]

It's really bloody annoying me. I don't mind him having treats. Chocolate is a treat, ice cream etc. His puddings at home are fruit and yoghurt with the occasional proper treat, but if I give him the choice he'll mostly ask for an apple or pear etc anyway.
I've raised with nursery since he was there at 10mo about some of the shit they were feeding him (frosted shreddies in the baby room!) Etc.
Now the latest thing is giving him Haribo. Haribo for pudding, Haribo in his bag when he comes home also as they had left over bags.
When I bought it up they seemed shocked like it wasn't a big thing, and maybe it isn't? But for £46 a day I expect him to be fed better than Haribo.
I know that I could pull him out but he's been there 2 years now and he absolutely loves it. It's also the only nursery on my way to work. It's really good and has an excellent Ofsted rating. It's just the food issue! AIBU

YANBU- I am shocked!

Im quote shocked. Our nursery only allow sweets for birthdays and they go home with the child.

Puddings are fruit and yoghurt and home made cakes and biscuits. Nothing horrendously sugary.

I really wouldn't be happy with them giving it as a pudding, young children are more than happy with a bit of fruit at that age. I've seen children bring home haribo, as they've been given them to celebrate another child's birthday and then it's your choice to give them or not or save them for later.

Yanbu. I would expect them to have healthy eating guidelines. Talk to the manager.
I didn't let my pfb have haribo until he won some at a 3yo birthday party and I was slightly put out then.

I work in a nursery and I’m disgusted. We even bake our own bread to keep salt and sugar down!!!!

That is shocking!! How is that a pudding?

Fyi i work in a nursery!

That is terrible!

You ANBU my school has even banned sweets for birthdays! For various reasons but health/sugar being one of them.

It seems a bit lazy of the nursery to me...

Apart from the nutrition aspect, haribo and boiled sweets are a serious choking risk at that age!

We moved dc primary school as they were getting sweets most days as reward for good/normal behaviour!

As a pudding or 'just because ' isn't on, at dd's nursery they get the little bags when it's someone's birthday but that's it.

Our school has also recently stopped sweets on birthdays. It was only a small packet of Haribo for each child but no more.

I'm shocked that a nursery would do this! They make my dd (7) completely wild so I can I only imagine what it's doing to toddlers.

If you’ve repeatedly asked them
not to give them to him then you’ll have to let them know you’ll be making an official complaint. That’s not ok that they are ignoring your wishes. I’ve nothing against the occasional bag of sweets, but for a treat and not normalised as a regular pudding!

YANBU. our nursery is sugar free except for special occasions like Christmas, Easter, etc!

Our nursery don't give anything like that. They occasionally bake biscuits with the children and they're allowed them but no sweets or chocolate etc. Only drinks are milk and water.

I'm so glad it's not just me. Dh is of the opinion 'well he'll eat them eventually'.
I did a written complaint around a year ago and ended up having a meeting with the nursery manager as I was really pissed when I found out frosted shreddies were being given. There were a few other things like chips being on the menu 2 or 3 times a week, walking in early one day and seeing him wandering round (age 14 months) with 2 chocolate digestives. Always giving him caramel snack a Jack's at 5pm meaning he won't ear his dinner etc. Things changed a lot and I've made a real effort to not be 'that mum' that seems to moan and scrutinise everything. But Haribo... ffs

Now I know I'm not BU I will contact manager again!

I would be disgusted, especially as this has been brought up with the nursery before.
I think I would have to escalate this to the managers and higher if needed but if this is their policy, I would be moving my DC if they can't respect your wishes

Yanbu
Totally hate the normalising of treat food as everyday food.

Ah yes that reminds me of other things! Had specifically requested no squash, water only.when he was in baby room But found out one day he was drinking squash. They put it down to him being the only kid there who wasn't allowed it and it was impossible to monitor as the kids were all picking up the wrong cups!

And on a recent parent and child day, they served whole grapes up! I was absolutely gobsmacked and they put it down to the fact they were going onto fruit kebabs. I did put a complaint in writing about that and the manager responded saying that halved grapes wouldn't have worked on the kebabs but next time they'll leave them off!

I'd probably look for a new nursery in all honesty

Squash for a toddler????? Change nurseries. His teeth are way more important than a nursery!

I think there’s a supervision problem clearly. If your DS was vegetarian or Muslim eating Haribo would have been against specific dietary requirements. Make another complaint. Maybe take photos and bring it to the media too.

My daughter's primary school aren't allowed to offer Frosted Shredding. She's never eaten them and she is almost 9!
I would pretty pissed off with that nursery.

I’d say I’m pretty laid back about food but I’d be really pissed off with this. Especially things like the frosted cereal. My DS is 4 and is yet to try that. The nursery should have much higher nutritional standards than the average family has at home I think, so that it’s left to you to decide if you want to give sweets, squash etc. YANBU!

I’d look elsewhere.