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AIBU?

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About all the toilets being unisex except the men’s?

14 replies

UggerlyMummy · 06/11/2018 17:30

DH thinks i am being unreasonable to mind about this. The toilets at the forest park I went to walk the dog in this afternoon were all unisex except for one which was men only. I went in the rangers office to ask why, and was told it was because the men’s one has urinals in and it means there’s less queueing for the other ones.

I get the point but it doesn’t feel fair that men get to use a single sex space when there isn’t one for women. The unisex toilets are self contained cubicles with sinks so I get the argument that they offer enough privacy (although they were filthy and the potential for hidden camera voyeurism concerns me a bit).

DH said he can’t see what the problem is, as there are probably a few urinals in the gents so it means shorter queues, as the park ranger said. I just didn’t think it fair that men’s needs are specifically accommodated like this when there’s no equivalent for females. I told DH that women have smaller bladders than men and that we also have to deal with periods so if anything, it should be women who get the extra single sex toilets rather than the men!

I know it’s not a life or death situation but it did irritate me. AIBU?

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FuckNuggets · 06/11/2018 17:40

YANBU I agree with you!

calpop · 06/11/2018 17:42

Have you been on Feminism chat?

The consensus over there is EXACTLY!

FekkoThePenguin · 06/11/2018 17:42

I agree. Unisex or as the kids say 'gender neutral' my arse.

blackteasplease · 06/11/2018 17:44

Absolutely agree! For exactly those reasons!

MrsTerryPratcett · 06/11/2018 17:46

Self contained with a sink if there were enough of them (and checked and cleaned properly which these clearly weren't) wouldn't bother me.

I'm at a conference where there are massive queues for the ladies and zero for the gents. Giving us less time for networking, education, the things we are actually here for.

AlpacaLypse · 06/11/2018 17:46

All loos should be unisex. But men should be automatically locked in until they have cleared up any spills splatters stinkers or other messes they've made in there... and I'm only half joking about this... Wink

UggerlyMummy · 06/11/2018 17:56

Thank you. The staff in the office seemed completely baffled that I was even asking about it. I ended up feeling like a total idiot. And then when DH didn’t get it either, it made me doubt whether my reaction was actually reasonable.

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UggerlyMummy · 06/11/2018 17:59

I’ve been there many times before and haven’t taken much notice of the loos being unisex. But today I was waiting outside for my mum (we took turns to go in so there was someone holding the dogs) and that’s when I noticed that there is a men’s toilet in addition to the others.

And it’s this fact of there being a men’s toilet while everything else is unisex that’s bothered me so much! That just seems more wrong than simply having unisex loos.

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NicoAndTheNiners · 06/11/2018 18:06

We have unisex loos at work and I have to wipe copious amounts of piss off the seat every time. Then sit there knowing I'm sitting in piss germs. And it's all over the floor and then on my shoes.

Glasgowbound · 06/11/2018 18:08

Do you still get those automated unisex loos that would flush the entire room when you left?

Walkingdeadfangirl · 06/11/2018 18:38

But what was the reality? Men probably went in the men's toilet and women went into he unisex toilets. Just imagine the toilets are split into urinals and non urinals.

Why would men start using the cubicles/'women's' toilets? Unless you got rid of the urinals then men would be forced to use the cubicles and it would take longer for women to access them.

Not sure why you thought the Park Ranger would be able to answer this question, I bet building/demolishing urinals/cubicles are nothing to do with his job.

UggerlyMummy · 06/11/2018 18:56

It’s an admin/reception desk setup and there were 3 staff members there. I asked them about it because I assumed they’d know why there was a men’s toilet in addition to the unisex ones, not because I believed that they personally had built them 🙄

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Sowhatifidosnore · 06/11/2018 20:06

YABU - I don’t want to use a toilets with urinals in them in the middle of a park. Next time they get a refurb they’ll make them all unisex but councils really do have other things to be worrying about and spending money on in the meantime.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 06/11/2018 20:19

Yanbu

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