We have one DC who will be pre-two at Christmas, so currently this isn't a massive issue, my concern is as he gets older.
We have very little money, anything outside of necessities has to be saved for, including Christmas presents. My budget this year (a particularly tough year) is £100 total for everyone (including multiple DNs, both sets of parents and siblings and our DS) adults are unfortunately getting a lot of 'handmade' but thoughtful small gifts so I don't have to scrimp to much on the kids. The present my DS will get is a £30 activity table that I've managed to get in a sale.
My AIBU is with our parents, my DM has decided to go all out on a massive train set, duplo, and lots of little bits. I have asked her not to over-do it at Christmas, but I get the same response, "GPs are there to spoil their DGC."
PIL have spent nearly £200(!!) on something that is more of a keep-sake, DH told his DM this was too much!
By really overspending on DS, it makes our present (and future presents) look stingy. As he gets older, he will ask us for specific toys that we may not be able to afford, I don't want him to develop bad feelings around our spending - feeling he's not been good enough or we don't see him as a priority and therefore always buy lesser gifts. DH tried to explain this to his DM, who answered, "if I want to by something for my GS, I'll buy it, you don't dictate my spending."
AIBU to ask for a cap on gifts? Or should I let them buy whatever they want - it's their money. DH wants to lay down the law with them quite firmly, it seems the money issue is bothering him a lot.