Due date of miscarriage and work colleagues baby born

[claret3189]

So we were.prwgnant at the same.time although they never knew. Their baby was born yesterday and so i have gone through the grieving process. I am happy for them but i really do just want to hide away. The manager is insistant on sending the baby picture to all staff. They probably forgot i was off for a miscarriage. I wish people were more sensitive to childlessness but they just arent

Sorry for your loss, I’ve also been there, my sister announced an ‘accidental’ pregnancy a few weeks after I had miscarried. She already had DCs. I’ve never really forgiven her even though that’s irrational. I eventually managed to have one miracle baby and no more. Don’t give up hope.

I know how you feel a bit. A relative had a baby born on the same day I lost mine. They were initially sensitive but now that I'm expecting again (everything crossed) they seem to think I'll be over the last one and send regular updates, like '5 months today!' as an example.

I can't expect them to tiptoe round it forever, of course not, and its lovely that they share their baby's development, but it still smarts a little privately.

Oh claret, I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry this has happened, I understand, I remember being barked at on a tube for not moving quickly enough for a pregnant woman a few weeks after I lost my son, people are not going to understand, it's terribly hard fo you to have to deal with this pain on your own, can you talk to anyone at work who may be able to help? I'm sending you so much love 💐

First of all I am sorry for your loss 💐
I know how heart breaking it can be, my cousin and I were due within a fortnight of each other, I miscarried at 16 weeks, the next day she posted her scan pic all over social media as an announcement, her baby was then born on my due date.
I was happy for her but also felt a great emptiness and loneliness and it felt like the rest of the family had completely forgotten what we went through (I had months of complications following the miscarriage also).
I’ve really come to hate how misunderstood miscarriage is, and how simple many people who haven’t been through it think it is.

I am very sorry for your lost. We also had infertility and failed IVFs. I do feel that only people who have felt this sort of lost can understand it and how to be sensitive to it.

@claret3189

We are no longer friends. It was so awful and I’ll thought out I just ended the friendship. It was also not the first time she’d relished in someone’s misfortune.

Please don’t lose heart. Miscarriages are awful. You’re grieving for a life that never came to be longer than those few short weeks and it’s so hard to put it into words at times and that’s ok. Anyone who’s had a miscarriage will understand that. It’s just very difficult.

I read somewhere that you should try to remember that your baby lived a lifetime with you. You just measure a lifetime differently.

Be kind to yourself x

soapme that is a genuinely lovely thought. It's made me cry in a good way.

I had an early miscarriage which I've always felt shouldn't hurt so much but I always think of how different life might have been if it hadn't happened. I think of who that person might have been. As a a common theme from this thread, they would have been exactly the same age as my nephew.

Its just really nice to think that they lived their whole life inside me. Focuses the attention on what actually happened and on the endless what ifs.

@silverbythesea thats so sad to hear

Thank you ladies for your touching posts

@M3lon

I am so incredibly happy to have helped you even in a small way. So many of us experience this kind of loss and the grief is real and raw for many.

I hope you’re ok.

@claret3189

I had my first miscarriage at 29 and my last at 39. In between I had 2 successful pregnancies and many losses. In the end my husband could not deal with the pain we were both going through and opted for a vasectomy. I wasn't sure at the time but now I know it was the right thing to do. We spent a large part of our marriage consumed by conception and loss, it swept us away with it and looking back I may have made a different choice.