Me and DH live approx 30 minutes away from my family and approx 20 minutes away from his family. On Christmas Day we usually alternate which family we have lunch with but will always visit the family we're not having lunch with and again on Boxing Day we will have lunch with the family we didn't have Christmas lunch with. As you can imagine this is quiet busy. This year as me and DH will have our third dc only a few weeks old I suggested to my family they visit me and DH and our dc Christmas morning before we leave for my inlaws for lunch and we would visit them on Boxing Day for lunch. My mum told me they'd just see us on Boxing Day when we pop over as my dad would be quiet tired Christmas morning from working Christmas Eve. I feel this is a very poor excuse not to make the effort to see us on Christmas morning considering they are only having dinner for them and my brother no other relatives. I also work Christmas Eve most years as does my DH but we don't use that as an excuse to not visit people on Christmas Day. AIBU to tell them we won't be visiting on Boxing Day this year as I'm getting tired of always being the one to make the effort. My parents haven't been to my house since May yet I've been to them at least 10 times. For my birthday they posted a card whereas for their birthdays I visited with their card and made the effort with cake ect. They drive so I'd understand a bit more if they didn't as it would be a bit awkward to get from theirs to mine without a car .