To not find DM "banter" funny?

[Amazona24]

Yes this seems a small thing but t goes beyond this which will go on forever. Me and DM normally get on great however she can be Negitive and make a lot of digs.
Any way I baked something and was very proud of myself so I sent a picture to her she asked what it was I told her it was raspberry blondies. She just put looks a bit heavy. I said they are suppose to be, well I'm impressed with myself and then she just flew off on one saying I was touchy and couldn't take her "banter". I said saying it looks heavy isn't banter it's a Negitive comment. I mean would I hurt her to say well done that looks good.
She has form for putting a Negitive spin on things or if you tell her something she will throw Negitive comments in to make you doubt yourself.
So aibu to be annoyed at her comments?

Nelly

diddl prob the fact I didn't go along with her "banter" and said I was proud of myself Any way.
Don't get me wrong she can be ok sometimes but I've had counselling because of her ways and I think my low confidence is mainly down to her

@Coyoacan that's exactly what it's like
It's even worse when they spend all their time "ooh X is so blonde and slim and pretty. X never smoked. She always wears nice clothes. Doesn't she look good?"
And you're just like 😕 but I'm your only daughter

My mum always called it "constructive criticism".
However it was never very constructive.
My relationship with my mum has moved on a lot and took some effort to rebalance it to be two adults rather than parent and child.
Let me take an educated guess here- your mum is good at dishing out the "banter" but will throw a strop if you do the same back?

Yea she can get quite spiteful if you give it back or say something she doesn't agree with. A big one she always did to me and sister when we were young was about our clothes. If we wore something she didn't like then she would keep going about not liking it until we changed.

YANBU. If you bring it up enough times she may start to keep her comments to herself, but it is exhausting. Mine thinks I'm a complete disappointment, she doesn't do sugar coating but she does keep her opinions to herself now at least.

I second putting a photo on this thread, this pregnant lady will definitely appreciate looking at yummy food!

I presume that the only reason that you would send anyone a picture of something that you had cooked was for them to critique it. She did

Odd to send anyone food pictures, tbh.

I just tried to upload a pic of them but it doesn't seem to work
Like I said I don't want approval I just want to share my happiness at doing well as I'm a single parent

I'm a fellow single mum with a problematic mother, I put some of my proudest bakes on Instagram sometimes, that's what it's there for!
I'm cringing at the thought of your mum saying 'banter', I'd have to laugh! She's unlikely to change.
Enjoy your blondies, the heavier the better 😍

Thanks for your supportive comments 😊 I feel very sick now after eating more than I should! Very moreish