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AIBU in thinkinh if he's not text then he doesn't like me anymore 😂

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Coldshoulders · 04/11/2018 23:10

So basically been meeting up with some guy who I have known for years n years. We have had history in the past but nothing "serious". So bumped into him other week near mine swapped numbers and txt and I went round. He was so nice n gentle with me n tbh it just felt right. So met up another 3 times which he txt me afterwards saying he's had a nice night it was perfect etc. Yesterday I asked him what he was doing n he said he had family round but would like to see me tomorrow (meaning tonight) told him to txt me n he hasn't. So instead of msging him myself I decided to ignore it, keep checking my phone, didn't text him n now he's on my mind n it's driving me mad! Didn't realise how much I actually like him til today. Anyways do u think he's just not into me? Don't wanna look desperate. I mean I get that he might of forgot but if he wanted to see me then he wouldn't forget. Aww God I sound so sad lol any advice? My plan up to now is not text him first n try n forget about him until he texts me, well if he texts me. Did i do something wrong does he not like me just don't get it. Aibu to presume he's changed his mind lol x

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Lifeisabeach09 · 04/11/2018 23:16

He is not looking for a relationship with you.
He wants to have sex with you on occasion (an FWB arrangement).
You can choose to go along with this or stop contacting/seeing him altogether. It seems as if you want more than what he does.

My advice to you would be to stop seeing him as you are already emotionally invested.

SoleBizzz · 04/11/2018 23:18

You are not his priority. Yes a million and one things coukd have prevented him texting you tonight but don't text him first. If he has a good reason for not texting you then go ahead but if he says he forgot about tonight, move on ffs. Unless you enjoy emotional pain.

Sparklesocks · 04/11/2018 23:19

It’s really hard to know. It might be that he’s been busy and got caught up, or it might be that yes he’s not really that into you. Nobody here can give you a definitive answer either way as nobody knows what he thinks.

I think yes the best thing would be to keep your mind on other things and not let yourself get too invested. Maybe in a few days send him a casual text and ask how he is, but try not to over analyse.

MarthasGinYard · 04/11/2018 23:19

He just wants a fuck though from what you've written.

So unless that's all you want I'd knock it on the head.

Sommelierrrr · 04/11/2018 23:21

Check out the "should I text him" flow chart on Google. Dont presume anything but think hard about what you really want and don't accept less. all the best op Flowers

SleepWarrior · 04/11/2018 23:22

Can't tell over one incident, but definitely don't text again until he texts you.

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Coldshoulders · 04/11/2018 23:28

Thankyou all for your honest opinions. Oh well looks like it's back to harsh reality for me 😂 I do appreciate everyone's comments tho end of day I'm obviously not on his mind so prob just keep myself busy n I won't be texting him. Still was alright while it lasted tho 😂 thankyou all xxx

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SoleBizzz · 04/11/2018 23:30

Let it go... but do not text him first..

TeddybearBaby · 05/11/2018 05:57

Look up someone called Matthew hussey. He talks about things like this, I think he’s brilliant! I just found a couple of his videos but he has loads. Good luck 💐

m.youtube.com/watch?v=NdI59RZHejI

m.youtube.com/watch?v=THBGcb1fkS8

CountArthursgroupie · 05/11/2018 06:03

Oh for goodness sake! He could have a) got caught up in family drama b) been exhausted and fallen asleep c) been ill. Just text and find out, men are people too!

KC225 · 05/11/2018 06:32

Booty call.

If he does texts - suggest something other than going to his place at night for sex. Go out for meal, to a nice bar.

Alfie190 · 05/11/2018 06:37

You are almost certainly a booty call. No, he would not have forgotten to call you had it been anything more.

GoatWithACoat · 05/11/2018 07:03

Doesn’t matter what he was caught up in. If he was really in to you he would invest in you. That’s what men do if they really like you.

Just leave it.

Jackshouse · 05/11/2018 07:06

The first time you saw him again it was just for sex, he is setting the tone. As a PP poster said next time he contacts you suggest a date type activity and see what be says and not make every date include sex. Don’t pin your hopes on this turning into a relationship though.

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Coldshoulders · 05/11/2018 08:23

Yeh think u are all right here n he's not worth even thinking about. Plus it's Monday so back into routine for me which will keep me busy n occupied. Deffo won't be texting him. Next time he can fuck himself 😂 but thankyou once again for ur honest opinions x

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KC225 · 05/11/2018 15:16

Did you check out the youbtube video that TeddybearBaby posted. The first one makes some good points about the tone of texting etc.

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Coldshoulders · 05/11/2018 22:58

Yeh I did n I thort they was spot on aswell so thankyou all for the advice xxx

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