Photos of other girls

[Kellyjanexoxo]

Hey. So me and my partner just got back together. We were together 3 years, split up for a year then decided we wanted to give it another go around 2 months ago. I was a bit unsure at the time as he had misbehaved previously but promised he had changed and I was all I wanted. Anyway a week ago i has seen on his phone he still had photos of other girls (naughty ones) one of the girls was a previous ex who has caused issues for us. But he seems to think it’s ok and I’m over reacting and he wouldn’t care if I had pics of men on my phone?! I think it’s really disrespectful.
Am I being silly?
This has caused a major issue in that he is now not speaking to me

I'd be so upset by that, particularly as it's exes rather than just random people (obviously that'd be terrible too though!)
He clearly has no respect for you or your feelings.

It’s disrespectful, rude, crass, uncaring, thoughtless and altogether unpleasant.
Tbh I wouldn’t want to be with anyone who thought it was ok to have ‘naughty’ photos of exes on his phone.
He sounds like a complete knob

FGS. You need to ask? Get rid.

Aintnothingbutaheartache Sun 04-Nov-18 19:36:24
It’s disrespectful, rude, crass, uncaring, thoughtless and altogether unpleasant.
Tbh I wouldn’t want to be with anyone who thought it was ok to have ‘naughty’ photos of exes on his phone
I agree totally and before you chuck him out make sure he does not have any photos of you, naughty or otherwise. He should not be keeping such photos.
Get rid of him and find someone who respects you and cares for you.

Does he not realise that his exes wouldn't like him still keeping the photos of them? It is disrespectful to you AND them.

Seriously what an idiot. Get rid of him

Smhis ex sent them to him! In August!

i think if they were photos of girls he had been with when he wasn’t with you that he had forgotten were on his phone and he deleted them immediately and apologied i could probably get over it. the fact he has dismissed it and making out you are being unreasonable this is wrong and i would seriously be considering his commitment to you. there’s no reason for him to keep these pics unless he’s still looking at them and i’m sure these women wouldn’t like to know he still uses their pics as wanking material

I don’t think these girls have any self respect to be honest. His ex caused trouble before and she sent him the pics so knows he has them. Thank you everyone. I didn’t believe I was being unreasonable but he’s very good st making out things are my fault

Mmm, I don't think it's very nice to say they don't have any self respect. Just LTB and don't bother slinging mud at them when it's him who has betrayed you and it's probably messing you all about. He's had his second chance from you.

Try not to worry about the girls or how much respect they have. You have no idea what their story is / what he’s telling them. I mean that with kindness.

Focus on your self respect, what will you accept.

I hate it when people make us question our own instincts. Mess with us so much we lose our sense of self. 💐

Eeeew, get rid.
He purposefully has kept wank fodder of women he used to shag (if not still shagging) on his phone.
You deserve more my love.

OP you do realise no 3rd party can become an issue in your relationship if he doesn’t let them?
You say they have no self respect but you’re the one that’s even considering staying with someone that has dirty pictures of other girls on his phone. Girls that he’s been with. Photos that he intends on using whilst he’s with you...
I’m sorry if that sounds harsh but it’s true.