Can I ignore a cheating friend

[snowychristmas]

I've had a lovely girly day today with a group of my closest friends whilst our partners took the children for a day out.
Whilst out I noticed one of my friends receive and send some text messages that didn't seem very innocent. The number she was messaging was saved as O2 but they definitely weren't the sort of messages I've received from O2.
I didn't bring attention to it at the time which I'm now regretting but I didn't want to bring it up in front of everyone and confess to looking over a shoulder at her phone.
Now I'm in a pickle though, I don't know what to do or who to tell. So I'm begging for any help and advice on this please mn

Did the message you saw definitely give the game away? I couldn’t be friends with someone who’s cheating, it would make me lose all respect for her.

You don’t know what’s going on so I’d steer clear.

She might be doing work as a text operator. I saved my company number as Three Mobile when I did. Utter filth the messages were too 😁

Surely it's none of your business. Were you reading her messages over her shoulder?

That should say why were you

Did she give you her phone then? I’m struggling to see how you saw so clearly what she messaged and to what number?
Anyway If this is real it’s none of your business and certainly not your place to be telling anyone your half baked and probably erroneous theories

I don’t think you should get involved.

She left her phone out on the table a few times throughout the day and I was shock at how many messages were coming in from O2 as I rarely receive messages from them. Then being nosy kept a bit of an eye on it throughout the rest of the day and couldn't really help but notice.

It made me feel very uncomfortable and as a pp said it's really made me question the friendship.

I'm yet to tell my DH as I think he'll want to tell his friend, her husband, immediately

I understand the issues of getting involved but I'd want to know if I was being cheated on

You don’t know she is, either stay out of it or talk to her

OP she will be working for a text service for money on the side. I'd bet my knickers on it. Given you've already ignored that suggestion I can only assume you're just on a windup tbf.

@TurkeyBear sorry I hadn't noticed your previous response, what is a text operator?

Stay out of it - the messenger always gets shot.

It made me feel very uncomfortable and as a pp said it's really made me question the friendship.

I'd certainly question the friendship if my friend had been gawping at my phone and was contemplating letting my husband "know" that I'd been cheating.

You don't know what's going on so I'd steer well clear.

Why don't you ask her about it first? Give her an opportunity to explain. And if she is cheating then tell her she needs to tell her husband (and if she doesn't then you will).

If she's a good friend and otherwise someone you enjoy spending time with then it seems a huge leap to be 'questioning your friendship' on the basis of unconfirmed suspicions

I would perhaps make a joke next time an O2 text pops up on her phone and see how she reacts. If she is having an affair then she's likely to get caught out pretty quickly unless she starts being more discreet

A friend at uni was a text operator, we'd sit in the pub and help her come up with more and more outrageous responses, she earned well from it.

This is really absolutely non of your business, no matter close your friendship is. If she wants you opinion, she’ll ask you.

You're begging for help and advice?!

Get a grip and just ignore it....obviously.

Mind your own business. You don't know what, if anything, is going on.