To wish people would stop saying “I hope it’s a girl”!

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I have a gorgeous 2 year old boy and am expecting again. Over and over people are saying to me they hope I get a girl this time!

Yes a girl would be lovely, but as would a boy. We wanted another baby, not a specific gender and it’s driving me insane that people are going to be disappointed if we have another boy.

I get you i have 5 boys and from the 3rd evreyone came up and was i bet you hope this ones a girl?! its like no i just want a healthy baby, however much i wanted a girl i wouldnt have my boys any other way

5 boys here too and all the comments about how I must be desperate for a girl were really annoying. It got to the point that I really wanted ds5 to be a boy because I was worried that people would say stupid things about how we'd finally got a girl after so many boys as if the boys were second best or mistakes.

I have three girls. I got "I bet dh wants a boy this time" during my second pregnancy, and during my third it was worse ''I bet you are both desperate for a boy" from loads of people.

People don't think, and it can be very hurtful.

DH has a sister and all female cousins. DH is the last male person in the family, so unless any of our dds choose to keep their name (which they might), we will be the last ones. It's an ordinary, fairly common name [hmm}
FIL was particularly vocal about continuing the family name bollocks and showing how disappointed he was when DD3 was born. Never forgave him for that.
I wish I'd had the presence of mind to ask FIL if he thought he was Henry the Fucking VIII?

Personally I don’t get the obsession, we had a boy & then a girl & decided we wanted another child. People have said to me “but why, you have one of each”, “that’s greedy when you have two different genders” etc. Clearly the most important part of having a child is their gender 😏

People are really annoying when you’re pregnant unfortunately.

From touching you inappropriately (seriously stop fucking touching me) to giving a load of unwanted or asked for advice to this bollocks about whatever sex they think you’ll want.

Just say congratulations and ask how you are.

I have 4 boys and 1 girl. Yep, every pregnancy after no2 was the from the I-bet-you-want-a-girl brigade. She’s treated no more special than her brothers by anyone so I still don’t ‘get’ why people got so hepped up about one of them being a girl eventually; the way people spoke was like she’d be a goddess or such!

Yup, 4 boys here and people are still being disappointed on my behalf. No need, really.

I wanted 4 children, their sexes are irrelevant. If I had had a girl, I would be trying my best to give her exactly the same upbringing as the boys - active, sporty, exploring science, exploring the world, liking ALL colours (not pink or blue specifically), being kind and respectful yet assertive and confident.

By not having a girl, I am not missing out on indulging in pink sparkly stuff, unicorns, princesses, spa days, shopping, etc, as those things do not appeal to me and I would not be encouraging it in a daughter anyway.

I have two boys so you can imagine the comments I get about wanting a third. Don’t I want to try for a girl (because you know, you can order what you want apparently..)?

I don’t want three children. So girl or boy is irrelevant. People are stupid.

I have a DS. As a child, I wanted a DD. As a pregnant adult, I wanted a healthy child.

I want a second child. Don't care whether they're a boy or a girl, all that really changes is what I have to wipe poo off and which parts I have to explain to them.

It's a platitude, I don't think they really care it's just something to say...

Your baby doesn't have a gender. It has a sex.

We got the same as well. Had one of each and when I was pregnant with DC3, I was asked why when I already have both???

Yep, this is very very annoying. I have three girls and am now pregnant with a boy. People are convinced that DP must be thrilled by this, as if he wouldn't have been thrilled by us having a girl!

Oh elliejjtiny another 5 boy's parent!!!

and Mindgoinground12 I have 5 boys to and from the third pregnacy i had this but the thing that really got me was people saying so your trying for a girl know, no we just wanted another child.

I have two boys and all I kept getting with this baby was "Was it planned?"

Such a personal thing to ask!

No one has really asked me about it being a girl or wanting a girl. Maybe I don't give off girl vibes.
It's another boy 😍

Tell them as I did ‘we really hope so, if it’s not then we are hoping to leave him at the hospital’ soon shuts them up . After she was born we also replied to people that we’d tried to leave her at the hospital but they refused to keep her

Oh I find this so annoying. I’m pregnant with my second boy and not planning on having any more and so many people just assume I would be disappointed it’s not a girl. I couldn’t care less about having a girl. I’m very happy to be having 2 boys. My mil is devastated I don’t want anymore children after this one as she wanted a girl

Yes people are bizarrely invested in what sex of child people produce. I have a son and everyone keeps asking me "when are you having another?" (annoying in itself even though we are ttc) and "I bet you want a girl next!". Actually no, Karen, I was hoping for a gender-fluid piglet. Really winds me up.

I have two girls and pregnant with a boy. So many people have said ‘were you trying for a boy?’. WTF?! What would that have actually involved? Only having sex by the light of a full moon, doggy style while reciting the Lord’s Prayer?!
We were trying for another baby.

I have 3 boys and am due in December with my 4th DC, we don’t know what we’re having and all we get from family members is ‘I hope it’s a girl’. I couldn’t care less what we have!

Oh God, I feel for you. I have 4 girls and have lost count of the number of people who declare their pity/sadness/horror that we don't have a boy.

Endless 'will you try for a boy' questions.

Just repeat the phrase 'I don't care what we have' until they get the message.

4 girls here too (which we both were very about tbh) - I kept telling people that it's not like having 4 DC the same just because they are the same sex!!

I have a boy and when I was pregnant with twin boys people kept being sympathetic with me. My friend who was pregnant with a singleton girl who was really jealous of my twins kept saying "oh I'm so sorry you won't ever get to experience a girl!" it made me so stabby!