Ex is lying about me in court, to be so anxious?

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I don't really want to post the whole back story but I have posted a few times on here in regards to the ongoing very difficult situation with my ex which began when he returned my 6 week old daughter 3 hours late. She is now 12 weeks old.

What has followed has been a relentless campaign against me with malicious reports to social services, my health visitor and the police. Everything from I had stolen from him to I have threatened to smother my daughter with a pillow. It was becoming so excessive I have got rid of my own mobile phone.

After the incident, I ceased contact due to him being late and being verbally aggressive when he dropped her off as I had called the police. I then arranged mediation so we could discuss things before moving forward, despite these numerous allegations. Anyway, he didn't bother showing up.

Since then he has denied parentage to CMS and lied to them that he has a court order to have her overnight 3 nights a week. I've also been on the receiving end of daily silent phone calls on my mums house phone.

Anyway, on Thursday I was served with court papers as he has decided to apply for a prohibited steps order, a specific issue order and a non-molestation order. There were pages and pages of allegations and drivel so I'll try and keep it concise for you but he has accused me of physical, emotional, psychological and financial abuse over the course of our relationship. He has stated that I harassed him and wanted to know what he was doing at all times. He doesn't want me being able to move more than 58 miles away from Greater London when I already live 66 miles away. He doesn't want me being able to leave the country without court permission.

Further to this he wants 7 hours of unsupervised contact every Saturday and despite applying for the non-mol for us to have a positive co-parenting relationship. He's even asked for bloody security at court as stated he's scared of me!

I know I shouldn't be nervous as it's all lies but he's so convincing and manipulative. I'm dreading what "evidence" he's dreamed up and seeing him in court. Is there a chance any of this could be granted?

He's also stating in his non-mol that contact was stopped due to him being scared of me and in his others he stating i've stopped it without giving the reason

You need legal advice. Ring a solicitor first thing on Monday morning. Get an appointment and gather all the evidence you can to take with you.

I am sure the truth will out.

I've got an appointment with a solicitor monday morning but I'm still so so worried.

Try and stay calm. This man is fabricating nonsense. The court should see through obvious lies. Your solicitor will be able to guide you through this

Even if you've got rid of your phone you can get copies of all text, messenger, whatsapp etc messages sent between the two of you. Your service provider can actually access all this information if necessary (have seen it used in court cases to prove that individual messages produced as evidence don't tell the whole story). May be worth you obtaining these records if they help prove your case. Also if you have reported him to the police they will have records that you can access which will show that you had to report him.

I am so so sorry this is happening to you.

I've been through a similar court battle with ex, where he made up details of my (invented) arrests and (invented) admissions to secure mental health units. He lied with a straight face, down to citing totally invented case numbers. The truth was slowly discovered, and he was deemed an unreliable witness / vexatious litigant, but I had two years of hell. I still cannot get over that there were NO consequences for him for lying under oath, he simply said in the end: "oh, then I must have confused silvercuckoo with what happened to another girlfriend of mine, my apologies".
The worst thing for me was that people slowly stopped believing me. As in - "she's probably not the rabid aggressive lunatic he makes her to be, but surely there is no smoke without fire".
An prohibited step order forbidding you to move is likely to be granted, even if in the interim. 7 hours unsupervised you probably can stop, relying on breastfeeding (whether you are breastfeeding or not).

Don't waste too much energy, you are probably in it for a long term. It is a marathon, not a sprint. Log every lie methodically, and mention a list of previous disproven lies briefly at every hearing.
Had he ever mentioned that he wants full custody?