Should i dump him?

[Anom12436]

My boyfriend of 3 months text me in the early hours and said he had taken cocaine. I spoke to him this morning and he said he takes it every friday but is wants to stop. He said that he needs help to get off it and it is only when he is with his mates. This is a massive bombshell for me. Im very anti drugs but do I stay and try and help him or write it off as a lost cause.

I dont see how you can help him

Not your responsibility. Point him in the direction of a drugs service and dump.

Taking drugs IMO is no different to regular alcohol intake, both are harmful but one is legal and normalised where the other isn’t. Does he really want to stop? The problems could arise if he keeps doing it and lying about it. If it’s early on and a deal breaker I’d get rid

If you’re wondering whether to dump him I think you already know the answer, sadly. I spent a few years of my younger life trying to get my boyfriend off drugs. Complete waste of heartbreaking years. Also the experts advise no tolerance as the way to go even if you wanted to help him.

After three months? Yes, walk away. Better now than when there are real feelings involved and your lives are intertwined.

I would absolutely dump him.

It wasn't a one off so walk away now while you still can.

Walk away op.You know you should.He is not your responsibility.

Does he have a good job to afford all this cocaine. Not your responsibility at all.

If he wants to stop, then it's on him to take those steps - if he doesn't feel he can stop on his own, he needs to go to his GP, or rehab, or drugs counselling services/Narcotics Anonymous etc. Not his girlfriend.

Please dont fall for this, if you do, look forward to constant disappointment and increasing impoverishment. Send him on his way, you can't help him.

Walk away.

It’s not your responsibility, no good will come of this

No, you'll just end up being the 'nagging girlfriend' who wants to spoil his fun. Cut your losses and find someone else.

He does have a good job but it explains why he is in debt. I think i will be braking up with him but do you think i should let his parents or brother know. I dont want to get him into trouble but he seems really low and was on about depression and worthlessness. I dont want him hurting himself.

Dump. Don't be a martyr.

And he's low because he's on a comedown fgs.

Not your job to contact his parents. If he hurts himself that's from his own free will. Nothing to do with you.