So I am actually cringeing having to write this as it sounds stupid. But hey.
I have said I’m going out at a work gathering for a few hours next week and DP is annoyed I’m going now as there’s a young chap on my team also going- and it’s clear he has a jealousy problem. Ultimately he’s said that he doesn’t trust him he knows things he done blah blah blah. I’ve said so what- what’s that got to do with me?
More or less saying this young chap doesn’t think twice about trying it on with other women. Wtf? Nothing to do with me. He’s bloody 13 years younger than me I don’t even care.
But he has a bit of anxiety around this. When I’ve said he’s being unreasonable and Christ he could have anxiety over anyone I’d never get to do anything.
He then brought up something from about 2 years ago where I was u comfortable with him going to a party where his ex GF was at. Which he was right. She was a pain in my arse caused so much grief and it took almost 2 years before she got bored and left us alone. Anyway various things happened where I felt he could have dealt with it better and had my corner a little more in scenarios. He never did and that’s why i didn’t really want him at a party - I couldn’t be dealing with all the crap.
I’m fine now - time has passed it’s all good. He’s out in a few weeks and she could be there. What can I do? Does it make me feel a bit “god hope she doesn’t raise her head again” yes- but that’s his choice.
Anyway he then says it’s not alright for me to dictate about that and me to just go out. I’ve said they’re different and Christ I never even went out with this guy.
He’s also going out the night I’m meant to and out with work the week after. What’s the difference I say?!
But he said “you don’t have anxiety about anyone”
Ive tried to explain Christ I wouldn’t go to a party with me ex who made his life a right pain in the arse- I just wouldn’t. They aren’t comparable.
I’m on day 5 of literally grunts all week. How the heck can I make him see reason?
He keeps saying a feeling is a feeling regardless of a situation- yet when I refer to about 10 bloody things he’s done that I wasn’t that happy about but he just did- it’s different.
He actually said last night “he wouldn’t look at you anyway you’re too old” then he referred to two girls that this chap apparently likes. I don’t give a flying fuck!!
Who cares? I just thought why say that?
It all went tits up then because I said “bloody hell we both know I’m better looking than those two so maybe you’re worried he will fancy me after all?”
He couldn’t cope. I shouldn’t have said I but he pissed me off.
I am NOT not going on my night out. I rarely go out with them - as in once and I’ve been on the team just over a year.
I just don’t know how to go through another 5 days like this - arghh!!
I spoke to my Bff and she sent me a picture of Britney Spears in her red catsuit and said “tell him this is your bowling outfit”
Bloody hell- this is really getting to me now.
What can I do?!