Aibu to bin DS shoes?

[Need2morehands]

Sorry this may seem like a petty argument but it’s still bugging me. This morning OH and DS we’re getting ready for football when OH comes into the living room asking why Iv binned DSs trainers he’s no trainers for football now he was quite annoyed when he “asked” this I replied Iv only binned one pair that were massively outgrown and one with a hole in, his new football boots are in the laundry room what’s the issue? He replied they were fine, you bin everything he can’t wear them! Even more annoyed and slammed the door. I’m so cross at his behaviour and overreaction I went to talk to him again and he stands by what he says. Am I missing something or is he BU?

I don't know if he is talking the truth or not but usually people would buy a new pair before chucking the old ones.

Sorry I didn’t say these weren’t football trainers just normal everyday ones that were replaced a while ago, I just didn’t realise they were still lying around. Apparently the new ones arnt suitable, I just don’t understand his sudden miserable outburst.

A lot of football boots can't be worn on astroturf so it may well be true that if he hasn't got any normal trainers he has no suitable footwear.

Just a couple of questions to understand better

Did the binning of the shoes stop your DS from playing football?

Is your DH possibly stressed over money and is worried about the cost of the new ones .?

But the old trainers have been replaced with like for like, Iv made the mistake before with astro/stud/mound trainers. I guess the argument was petty but I’m really unhappy with how he dealt with it.

They could be a favourite comfortable pair or a lucky pair only worn for football.

He was probably wearing the old pair for football training to stop the new ones getting equally ruined, I'd usually say something before chucking out a pair of shoes.

They have still gone to football with his usual boots which are indoor/outdoor boots so I can’t see his point. I know he likes him to wear different shoes to and from football but there’s loads he could have picked to do that.

How old is DS? Is he old enough to have a say?

It’s a proper match today so they have to wear football boots. He knows I buy all his boots from eBay so it saves on money and it’s not as big of a deal if they get destroyed. Maybe he just wanted me to have told him but that’s not how it came across at all

Oh well, oH shouldn't talk to you like that. He can give his opinion and discuss with you in a more respectful way. Sounds like he got out of bed in wrong side /was stessed. Hope it wasn't infront if DS. . I'd let it go, if he doesn't usually taken down to you in this way. If he does tho', maybe he needs a reminder that he ought talk to you, mother of his child, with respect.

Ps. Oh for sure YANBU to throw out old falling apart, trainers with holes in. What's the point in keeping them?

He did say it in front of ds that’s probably another reason why I’m annoyed I didn’t tell him exactly what I was thinking and bit my tongue. I just kept saying he’s got shoes and boots I only binned the pair that were 2 sizes too small and and the pair with a hole.

HWBU and not showing great Dad skills speaking to you disrespectfully infront of DS.
He'll later wonder why DS speaks disrespectfully to him & you, if he makes a habit of modelling rudeness to your DC. Well done for biting your tongue at the time.
A 'please don't speak to me in that manner, we will talk later' is appropriate response for next time. And leave the room.