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Are PDSA doing enough for my cat?

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ChatCatCat · 02/11/2018 20:11

Years ago a cat kept visiting my Mum's garden and appeared to be stray. After a few weeks, my brother feared the cat a stray so we took it to vets and could not trace any owners. I took it in and it was aged approx. 9 years old. I as never had a dog/cat before so was unaware of vets bills later down the line and just tried to do the right thing at the time.

I am on benefits so get reduced rate vets bills but I now have to go almost every two weeks now the cat is 17 and having lots of health issues. The centre is a 20 minute car journey which end up with a cat carrier full of stressed poo, drool and urine. I'm not sure if it's a false economy and maybe I should go to a regular vet who will be more thorough?

Cat is dripping faeces out of his bum or not finishing and having poo stuck in his bum which then is wiped on carpet etc. He absolutely stinks at both ends and cannot groom himself. His tail is at the wrong angle and his tummy has become acutely bloated and getting bigger. He is struggling with a weak back end and the added weight to move around. Vets have done a urine test, tried antibiotics and pain relief plus put him on a 'super senior food' as he is "no longer keeping hold of his protein from his food" but they just seem to be guessing on whether there is a bigger issue ie growth or organ infection - it is obviously costing more money in the long run for me and extending cats discomfort. Being a charity I guess they are limited in how much they can offer to one pet, appointments are always rushed.

Can anyone give an intelligent guess at what I should ask for from a private vet and what a reasonable vet will charge (I have used private in the past when employed and found a very fair priced one). DH is of the 'PTS' opinion but the cat eats, drinks and snoozes quite happily and responds to petting so I wouldn't say he had a poor quality of life - especially if some of these issues can be resolved.

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BrickByBrick · 03/11/2018 12:58

Sorry to hear the update, but yes I really feel you did the right thing.

Take care

SaucyJack · 03/11/2018 13:04

Yes, you did the kindest thing for you darling boy ❤️

AnnieOH1 · 03/11/2018 13:09

One of the cheapest vets round here is actually the travelling one. I don't know how much your costs are to get to the vet once every two weeks but it may be more cost-effective to use a travelling solution. And the cat won't be getting all stressed out. I highly recommend them. If you are North East Derbyshire/South Yorks/Notts area let me know and I will pm you the details for who we use.

I've known cats (two very elderly Persians come to mind) who couldn't groom in the last decade of their lives, their owners (moms) did it for them. And every cat I've ever worked for (!) has always got me to clean it after any horrendous poops. (Cat in ballerina pose meowing, wet wipes on back end while whichever cat then excoriates my hand by preening me in return). Oh and these are cats that haven't met at any time so it isn't a learned behaviour.

Janleverton · 03/11/2018 13:15

You absolutely did the right thing. Personally, as a pet owner I think part of the responsibility for having a loved pet is letting go and giving a good death to avoid suffering. I would rather PTS a moment too early than a moment too late. It is always a difficult decision, but it sounds like it was totally in your cat’s best interest, taking note of your update regarding behaviour and symptoms.

cheesefield · 03/11/2018 13:17

So sorry OP. It sounds like you absolutely did the right thing for your cat.

I love my boy, but if he was suffering and it was likely his suffering would increase then I would not hesitate to PTS. You looked after him for many years and it sounds like he was lucky to find you.

Janleverton · 03/11/2018 13:19

My 17 year old was PTS a couple of years ago. He was the best, most gentlemanly old cat ever, but it was quite clear in the last week that there was something severely up. Had a mobile vet come out (cat hated travelling) and while the vet said we could do more tests I felt that that would have done him more harm than good. Was sad but I have no regrets. It was time.

Alfie190 · 03/11/2018 13:26

I think you made the right decision, I don't say that lightly, two years ago I spent £10k on vet bills for a badly injured cat. My vet says it was the case of her career. But in your case, you definitely did the kindest thing. He had a good innings.

ChatCatCat · 03/11/2018 13:32

Thanks everyone. My dog was PTS in August, a terrible shock (I posted on here but have name changed). I always thought our cat would go first. He seemed to rapidly deteriorate since July and I was conscious of not keeping him going just because the dog had been PTS and really struggling with not knowing if I was prolonging his suffering or 'giving him a chance'. It's been looking for weeks but having tried painkillers, antibiotics and food change had been hoping he would have improved in some way but nothing at all seemed to get better other than the painkillers must have masked some pain as he started leaping onto my daughter table for leftover food! But detioration continued, his middle was around 3x bigger than his head and he was apparently severely underweight under the fluid build up.

I stroked him his favourite way while they put him to sleep, he didn't fight or get stressed. Had I have been certain he was needing to be PTS today I would have opted for a travelling vet, I wish I had in hindsight but I wasn't totally sure if he needed treatment, investigation or PTS. I find it really difficult once pet is PTS to be sure I made the right decision or took an easy way out (because faeces on the sofa
/floor and carpet are inconvenient to say the least as is fitting pet visits in around a young family). We have no other pets and won't be getting any for quite sometime now.

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ChatCatCat · 03/11/2018 13:35

Also people say that 'ypu know when it's the right time's but I'm not sure I ever would because I always feel there is a fighting chance. Even when my Grandma had neumonia in her nineties I wouldn't accept the hospital telling me there was nothing else they could do so it must be some weird character flaw/guilt I have about 'not fighting'.

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ChatCatCat · 03/11/2018 13:36

I'm really self indulging here, sorry for the long posts. Hoping to feel a sense of peace that I never did when my dog was PTS unexpectedly.

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Yesitwasmethistime · 03/11/2018 13:40

Another one agreeing that you did the right thing. It is a hard decision but to me if the vet said they would PTS if it was their cat then you were absolutely justified.

Take care Flowers

Yesitwasmethistime · 03/11/2018 13:41

Cross posted with your updates but you really did do the right thing.

Janleverton · 03/11/2018 13:55

You did two wonderful things for your cat - you took him on and gave him a good life, and you also gave him a peaceful end. You did well.

BiteyShark · 03/11/2018 14:04

To keep 'fighting' is sometimes simply to spare you the heart ache. It isn't always the best thing to do and in this situation, like everyone else, I believe you did the right thing by your pet to PTS.

Confusedbeetle · 03/11/2018 14:06

You did absolutely the right thing. An elderly cat unable to tend to himself is not a happy cat. It was time to let go

glenthebattleostrich · 03/11/2018 15:29

You absolutely did the right thing.

As a PP said, you have him a loving home and a peaceful end. Cherish your happy memories and remember how loved he was.

Marylou62 · 03/11/2018 15:45

I had a 12 year old cat PTS 12 years ago..I still wonder if I did the right thing..It's part of pet owning. Trying your utmost to do the right thing and then the guilt
. Sorry you are feeling so sad.
I am writing this and stroking a 12 year old replica of our old cat..He came into our lives, filled the cat sized hole not long after old cat died. Meant to be.
Thinking of you OP

BanginChoons · 03/11/2018 15:52

I think you did the right thing OP.

Vixxxy · 03/11/2018 16:00

PTS would absolutely be my choice here.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 03/11/2018 16:00

Euthanasia (from Greek: εὐθανασία; "good death": )

Good death at the end of a Good Life.
No animal should suffer when the option is to offer them a good death.

I had one of my guinea-pigs euthanised a couple of weeks ago and its tough no matter what the animal is . But sometimes its the only humane option.

All the tests and Xrays are stressful and at the end of it there's a "What Now" situation.

DarlingNikita · 03/11/2018 16:32

Today I noticed him snuggling into the walls and dark areas

That would have been the deciding factor for me. When I was a child I found our cat dead, curled up peacefully under the bed in a spare room she had never used to go into. I absolutely believe she wanted somewhere dark and private to die.

You did the humane thing and I bet you gave him a lovely (and long!) life.

Feefeetrixabelle · 03/11/2018 18:16

I’m so sorry to read your update even though it’s what I’d advised. Having a pet is such a responsibility and I myself struggle with the decision to pts however it sounds like the absolute right thing to do. Your pet is at peace now and you have many years of beautiful memories.

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