To wish my ds didn’t have autism?

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It hurts to see how much D’s struggles and how desperately he wants to fit in and have friends and a normal life but can’t.

I hate it.

I wouldn’t take away ds autism, that is just a part of who he is.

I would take away the related anxiety as that is crippling for him and I would make the world more understanding.

But yanbu to feel that way in your case

YADNBU!

Can you ask your local authority about any clubs/playschemes for kids on the spectrum?
Or...what about finding a pen pal ? (you can help with writing letters etc)

I totally understand Op - it's heartbreaking to watch. No real advice unfortunately but I'm sure he is happy & you do your best to make that happen so enjoy that as much as possible.

Hugs from a fellow Asd mum. It's rough. So rough. All DS wants is to be part of a normal social life, like his sister but it's too hard. So many obstacles.

I wouldn't change him but I would love to be able to relieve the difficulties.

if you wish really really hard...................

Your ds will still be autistic because thats who he is.

He does have a normal life. Can you get involved in any clubs or activities in your area for kids/young people with SEN. I find things like this can be a godsend if their main activity is school full of neurotypicals, or home full of neurotypicals modelling a version of normal that he cant relate to.

D’s doesn’t really accept that he has Autism. It’s very hard because he won’t accept help.

If I could’ve taken away my brothers autism I would have

What are his specific major struggles? There’s plenty that can be done to improve social skills and age helps too.

How old is he? I feel the same about my dds. People can be very judgemental.

How old is he?

I think they often go through phases of not accepting it, but he really does need to meet some other aspies because he may have internalised disablism as a coping mechanism. He needs to see that other people with autism are fine and so is he. He doesnt need to socialise in the same way as a neurotypical. He needs to find his own way