Husband out again!

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My husband has been away with work since tuesday and got home late last night so I barely saw him. He is going away with work on Monday until Wednesday night also. He is busy going here and there all weekend so I will barely see him. AIBU to be upset that he has gone to the pub after work this evening, without letting me know, with the same people that he will be spending all tomorrow evening with? He will be out from about 10am tomorrow until 4pm when his friends are coming over and they usually stay until 1am ish!! On Sunday he will be out from about 10 am until 5pm ish. I know he needs his own social time and if it was a usual week (no work trips) I wouldn’t mind. I just feel as though he isn’t even considering spending time with me.

I’m 28 weeks pregnant and we were meant to be going out tonight to celebrate getting to the third trimester.

Feeling pretty rubbish!! AIBU?

Has he forgotten he is married maybe? Bloody sounds like it.
No way would I accept that - he needs a reality check.

I fear for your future, I really do. YANBU.

Yanbu but have you said anything to him? I know you shouldn’t have to but he just may not have even thought about it or thought you wouldn’t have minded. Sometimes men are just thick and need it spelling out for them. 🙄

He's living like a single man.

Being pregnant doesn't mean you have to put up with it.

People choose to do what they want to do. It doesn’t sound as if he wants to spend time with you.
If he’s like this when there’s no baby, what’s he going to do when there’s a crying baby in the hous? I’d imagine go out, on this evidence leaving you with the slog.

Nope that’s shit.
You aren’t there to take scraps from his table you’re his fairly heavily pregnant wife. How about he stayed in tonight cooked you a nice meal, watched a film blah blah?
If he’s trying to make you feel peripheral he’s going a good job.

I would ask to move this thread to relationships.

Sounds to me like he's trying to make the most of it before the baby comes but I'd speak to him and make some plans to spend some time as a couple in coming weeks, and also mention how this isn't going to be the case once he's a father.

I'd speak to him and make some plans to spend some time as a couple in coming weeks

They already had made plans, for tonight, but he decided to go to the pub without even letting OP know. That’s not “making the most of it”; that’s utter disrespect.

Sorry but I would have put my foot down about him being out all day Saturday AND Sunday never mind going out tonight. I would be raging.

YANBU.

Wow, so he stood up his own wife? What arsehole behaviour. I think you need to get angry fast.

Well he’s shown where his priorities lie.

Is he always such an arsehole?