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To tell the OW a few home truths?

31 replies

karmachameleon64 · 02/11/2018 18:00

ExP left me when i was pregnant for OW...that quickly went tits up and they allegedly split... he came back asking me to take him back last month and i told him i didnt trust that he was through with
OW...he admitted he was still in touch with her only as a shoulder to cry on because she was being sacked from her job....during a drunken exchange by him he sent me msgs from her to prove it was only friendship but the msgs contained confidential info about allegations she had against her employer...very damaging statements and info about her gettin paid money to keep quiet....i did nothing with this info and decided i couldnt forgive him...since rejecting him he has threatened me and is refusing to pay maintenance...when i asked why he was doing this he said OW was giving him advice on how to avoid maintenance as she would do anything to destroy me as she hates the fact i had his baby...i am furious esp as she has kids of her own...dnt know why she is so interested in my demise since she has got enough problems of her own and a new man according to my ex.

I want to confront her and tell her what a twat my ex is and to show herwhat he sent me, and ask her to stop interfering in my life, aibu and just bitter?

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theWarOnPeace · 04/11/2018 14:29

Disengage. I repeat - disengage! Go through CMS and detox your life. No good can come from going head on with this.

PurpleWithRed · 04/11/2018 14:34

XDHs new wife won't speak to me, look at me or attend any occasion that I'm at. We didn't overlap at all so no OW stuff. I do wonder what he told her about me Grin. I will leave her to find out for herself what a grade A tosser he is.

category12 · 04/11/2018 15:03

Very convenient that it's all her advising him on not paying child support when he's been trying to get back with you. Hmm

Come on OP, he isn't going to say "I'm doing everything I can to avoid paying child support and generally being an asshole, but let's get back together," is he?

Nope, he's shifting the blame to the evil OW who he's powerless to withhold a comforting shoulder or dick from. Hmm

She's nothing to you, don't get diverted.

NotTheFordType · 04/11/2018 15:04

When you first got with him, did he tell you any stories about how crazy his ex was and how she'd done him wrong?

Maelstrop · 04/11/2018 15:23

CMS and ignore the OW, she is not worth your time.

CoughLaughFart · 04/11/2018 15:33

Have you still got the confidential info? I’d make sure her former employers know that she’s sharing it around, probably breaking an NDA in the process. Bye bye settlement!

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