AIBU to contact safeguarding?

[PrincipalVernon]

I have a friend who I met when I joined a local volunteering role, she was(is) a nice lady, possibly a bit harsh for some as in swears a lot and is a bit loud but we are all adults and she’s not offending anyone so non issue really, anyway..
Her children also attend the child’s side of the volunteering activity so we have all got to know them and are lovely children.
This is my issue, I’m worried about her children and don’t know if AIBU/ overstepping the mark by contacting the school safeguarding officer?
Her personal life has changed dramatically in the last year in that her husband has left, she has started seeing a new partner and her oldest daughter has moved back home - none of that sounds dramatic but the 3 of them have become unstable and are bouncing off each other , binge drinking most nights, arguing and fighting.
Her oldest daughter (who is in her 20s)needs serious help as she often cuts herself, disappearing, getting herself arrested and has been taken to hospital but the mental health team were unable to do much as she is intoxicated whenever they see her (I don’t know how accurate that is as I have no knowledge of the law/ mental health side of things)
The thing that worries me is that her 2 young children are upstairs whilst 3 adults are getting drunk, shouting, swearing, cutting themselves and threatening people, storming off in the middle of the night. They went for a drive (yes the driver had been drinking!) at 2am on a Tuesday and there was no mention of where her 2 young children were. I couldn’t stop to question what happened because I was actually running a children’s youth group at the time (she was talking about it with another adult in the kitchen and I ran through to get biscuits for the kids then she had gone by the time the last child in my group was picked up)
I have gently tried to talk to her a few times but to be honest recently she can be very aggressive and I don’t want to end up being punched in the face!
Our children don’t go to the same school but I know she’s a member of the PTA and mentions a lot that she gets on very well with the head and various members of staff but I don’t know how true that is as she was joking about how on occasions she has taken the children to school whilst still drunk from the night before.
So I supposed my point is - AIU to contact the safeguarding officer and how the hell will I deal with the fallout? I’m actually scared she will turn up at my house

If ever you are concerned about a potential safeguarding issue and not sure what to do, you can always contact NSPCC on
0808 800 5000 and they will advise you.

Hmm very tricky one, I wouldn’t fancy getting punched in the face for bringing it up with her either. Definitely an issue though. I know it’s wimpy but is there a way you could do it without anyone knowing it was you?

To be honest, and I feel awful admitting this, but I would try and keep an ear to the ground, sort of take note, and do my best not to seem like I’m listening or close enough to the situation to actually know what’s being said, so it doesn’t come back to you.
And yes. I would be referring.

Chances are it’s already on the teachers radar because it’s npt going to go unnoticed if mum has appeared at school with that awful morning after smell, looking a bit tipsy acting a bit louder than usual. In fact. I know someone who had SS called on her for doing the pick up from school tipsy.

Them poor children.

We were told in Safeguarding training, if in doubt, tell the DSL.
You have them shifted the responsibilty to them and they will follow it up, proceeding as they see fit.

Who is the safeguarding lead for your volunteering activity? You need to tell that person exactly what you've said here.

It is SS you need to contact. Getting in touch with the school is a way of guaranteeing that someone else will make the decision about whether to contact SS. It's just a middle man.