Wedding presents...none from DH family

[jjsmum84]

I recently got married...yay....to the most wonderful man in the world, we sat and opened our presents and cards and received lots from my family and our friends but just a card from DH's side of the family, there a funny bunch and it's not a money issue as they are very well off, we didn't expect anything from anyone so we're not being ungrateful, it's just hurt us both a bit that they didn't think at all....are we being unreasonable to be hurt?

In my culture that would be so wrong and weird.

But btw you should still send a thank you card as the thank you cards are also for attending the wedding. I would take it personally - perhaps they like you less than you thought?

Yes, still send a thank you card to say thanks so much for sharing our day with us. If there has been a mix up then that's their chance to say

It's odd

No one on my side of the family got us a wedding present. Although my parents did buy my wedding dress and had to travel far, stay in a hotel etc. I thought it was a bit embarrassing as my husband's family and a lot of our friends had been so generous, but I know my family would be devastated to know that this would be perceived as rude. Its clearly just not part of their tradition/expectations. I didn't get married to expect gifts. If your relationship with your in-laws is otherwise good, I suggest you get over it.

Next time one of them visits say something like "Don't these flowers look lovely in this vase. My aunt gave us it for a wedding present."
I do think it's a bit strange if they didn't have any outlay for the wedding.